What are some thoughts about hyphenated last names and children having a middle name as well as a…

Even though that's your man it's still your child I think the idea of having both last names is a good idea

My daughter has a first, middle and two last names and so will this baby. I felt the same way about not wanting to give them just his last name. I think its fine as long as the names arent something super long like Stephanie Isabella Williams-Thompson. My bf at first wanted them to have his last name but I stood my ground and told him it's either both or it will just be mine. If we do ever get married we decided that we would both hyphenate our last names so we can all be the same.

not to sound shitty, but if you were that anal to begin with you wouldnt be having your child out of wedlock.. I think the two last name thing is a joke. girls eh doesnt matter becusse4 they will get married and the last name is supposed to change anyway.. but the boys carry on the lineage so i understand that much. now if im not mistaken they will go by your last name in the hospital and if its any different name.. the dad has to sign it or something... not quite sure. my god daughter was just born and her mom never changed her name legally so the dad had to sign paperwork... I know my other god daughters parents arent married and she has her dad's last name. its his baby as much as it is yours. if you have to do hypenated names so be it.. but it shouldnt be just yours. the last name wasnt an issue before.. i dont see why its one now

give the child BOTH last names, you have a valid point. Growing up I had my dad and mother last name ( Dover-Prince ) until I got married now I have one last name ( Attmore ).

@daniellediane thanks girl ❤️ I have a few different name combinations in mind, for a girl my top pick is Isabella Hope and for a boy he decided Thomas as a first name and I decided either Carter or Peter as a middle name and I haven't thought of which order would be used for the last names. I always imagined and promised that if we were married or engaged first with solid marriage plans then I'd give our child his last name with no issue and hyphenate my own last name (because I'm obnoxiously proud of my last name lol), however he's shown no interest in that kind of a commitment anytime soon and with us just starting to work things out again after so much chaos I can't help but also take that into consideration.

@egates, thanks 🙂 that's exactly how I feel about the whole thing! It's good to know I don't sound crazy by wanting two last names for my child lol

@babyattmore, thanks! ❤️

my husband's full name is Brandon Earnest Needham Knight, which is two middle names but people always think that Needham-Knight is a hyphenated last name.

@lilfree16, I understand and respect your point, however when he and I found out we were expecting and when this happened we were on a different path in which marriage and commitment was in the works and I had been told by my doctor a few years back that I wouldn't be able to have children due to pcos so that never crossed our minds although we still used protection which (obviously) didn't work this time around and I was blessed with this opportunity to be able to carry this child, however things got bumpy and commitment/marriage is not on the table right now for us, not to say that things won't change or they will, and if they change for the better before the child gets here I won't be hesitant to give it his last name exclusively, and I'm also willing to change it to only his if things change anytime after the baby's here, but until that happens id rather it have both last names because I wouldn't give it just mine or just his in our situation because I acknowledge that it's both of our child. Nobody would be calling the child by both last names just because it carries both and most people probably won't even know it has two last names unless it goes around broadcasting it every 5 seconds, but it'd give me some comfort to allow it to have both names if things are going to continue in the manner that they are at the moment.

@ginnalynn, thanks for your input! ❤️ I never really thought about 2 middle names. You actually just gave me an idea that if the last name thing becomes entirely too annoying and becomes something we compromise on I could always do something like that and just have it have 2 middle names since nobody really goes by their middle names on a daily basis and use one last name as a part of the middle name and one of our last names as the actual surname.

that's exactly what mg husband's family did! his mother's maiden name was Needham and his father's last name was Knight so they used Needham as a second middle name out of respect for his mother's family! @jc100495

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@ginnalynn, That's a really great idea! I'm definitely going to give that some thought. Thanks so much! :)