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Jessica
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Ladies can I vent for a bit?

Ladies can I vent for a bit?

Well as im sure most of you know I'm expecting my first child. Im due in June and im so ready to meet her. Well for many years I never thought I would be able to have any kids. For some time I always told myself that it wasn't meant to be with whoever I was with at the time.

Well then i was like hell maybe i just cant have any kids. Obviously thats not the case!

Well yesterday I had my 4D ultrasound and for the first time in 8 months it finally hit me that Im gonna be a mother! Well it seems that feeling lasted only for a few hours cause im back to feeling like this is soooo unreal. I try to tell myself that it will all sink in once i have her in my arms, but even now trying to imagine it to make it seem real is getting hard.

Idk if it because ive been in the process of buying a house that i havent been able to completely enjoy this pregnancy. Or because for so long I never thought it would happen, that i cant believe its happening!

I think part of me is scared that something, idk what, is gonna happen and well.......

Please tell me im not crazy and these feelings will go away? Is it normal to feel this way and things change once the baby is born??

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olson0305

olson0305

I was pretty shocked with my first 2 that it took some time to feel attached to them, like even after they were born. I felt guilty for not feeling an immediate overwhelming bond I thought was supposed to be there! But I've heard it's normal, as is the guilt with it. It can take a while, there's no way around that! My first 2 are 5 and 6 now and I never even think about that initial feeling because now I find it hard to remember life without them. ❤️ And THAT is what matters.

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showersoverflowers

C.Мама сына (2 года), беременна (26 нед.)

this is my second and I feel the same way. I am horrified I won't feel the same way about this baby as I did with my first. I just give it to God and let Him control it.

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amilo561

AlexaМама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

I was similar but almost for the opposite reason. We decided to try and get pregnant almost just on a whim and I was shocked at how quickly I fell pregnant. That made it seem unreal because I hadn't really thought it through and when we decided to get pregnant, I thought it would take a lot longer than it did. I think it's normal to feel that way no matter what your circumstances, because you know your life is drastically going to change, but there's no way to know exactly what it will be like until you have the baby so it's hard to imagine

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averismommy5416

JessicaВ ожидании первенца

I really hope so ladies. I smile everytime I feel her kicking. but i hate feeling like this is all a dream

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smiles2

LaceyМама сына (3 года), беременна (30 нед.)

It's normal, I felt the same way for a little bit with my first, even after he was here it just felt like I was baby sitting. lol.

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jaydensmom

EvelynМама подростков, ждёт третьего

It's normal this is my third, but my youngest is 13 my oldest 16 and I still can't come to reality feels like it's not real to me maybe because I was set on two kids and I have my pair girl and boy but I'm sure once the baby comes that feeling will change 😊👶🏽🍼

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chrissytee

Chrissy TorresМама сына-младенца

I was kinda the same way. Never thought I would have kids, then I got a positive test. It didn't feel real to me until he was in my arms. I always thought something would go wrong & it didn't! You're not crazy & you're gonna be a great mom!

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shanrainbow

ShanМама сына (2 года), беременна (2 нед.)

it is normal for you to feel this way, it will sink in more when she is here, my little boy is 2 now and I sometimes sit and think to myself 'I can't believe I'm a mum!' x

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