how do you deal with a dead beat dad who always plays the victim role? I kinda wanna hire a hit…

how do you deal with a dead beat dad who always plays the victim role? I kinda wanna hire a hit man... If murder was legal lol

a lil back story: he wanted to sign over his rights when him and I divorced 7 years ago, I wouldn't let him, he later said his g/f was wanting him to and it wasn't his idea (passing the blame) He's been very inconsistent with the kids, even when we lived only a few blocks away from him.

we moved to Reno in October and he lives in Ca, 3.5 hour drive away. he claims that I am the reason he doesn't see them anymore cause I moved them out of CA. insist its MY job to make sure the kids get to see him. I should bring the kids to see him and he shouldn't have to make the drive.

he makes a lot of money and barely pays anything in child support. he could easily afford the drive. (not to mention his most recent x-wife and his 2yo daughter moved to Reno too and so he has 3 kids here that he doesn't see or call at all)

but anyways, my fiance's kids live in Ca too and he drives down every other weekend to stay at his grandparents house and have his visit with his kids (so they don't have to suffer the long drive) and no matter how tight finances are, he makes sure he sees them.

So being that my fiance doesn't use the distance as an excuse to not see his kids, I don't understand how my boys dad can get sympathy from people by playing victim and use the distance as an excuse!

things is he never calls them or checks on them and the few weekends that my kids and I go with my fiance for the visits, their dad never answers his phone and later says he was busy with other things.

just so tired of the BS. Trying to get sympathy because his kids moms took his kids out of state, but never making an effort to see them even when he can.

hell, he was in Reno last week (for court with his other ex wife) and never once called to see if he could see the kids while he was in town. he didn't even ask his other ex if he could see his daughter. so even when he's close, he doesn't try. ugh. I feel so bad for my boys who are starting to see their dads patterns and question it. he lies to them and breaks promises and lets them down every time. they ask why my fiance makes the drive to see his kids but their dad won't make the drive to see them. it breaks my heart and makes me soooo mad that their dad is such a dead beat!

okay, rant over. lol for now