It took me until about 3 months out for it to feel totally normal like it used to. I had a slight tear and not a terrible labor. We were able to have sex at 6 weeks out but we had to use a lot of lube to make it comfortable for me.

I had a csection and my husband and I only lasted 2 weeks and it didn't hurt so I think it depends on you

depends on how bad baby tore you up lol.I had a full episiotomy and 4th degree tearing... took a while

4-6 weeks is recommended because of healing.