So my child's father texted me yesterday saying we need to work things out (which is what I've said…
So my child's father texted me yesterday saying we need to work things out (which is what I've said countless times). I tell him that I'm at a point where my only concern is my and my child's health and I no longer have any desire to work things out because nothing ever changes when I say that or the two times he said it, and I'm tired of my blood pressure being high all the time from stressing over him and dealing with his BS and it'd just be best if for the sake of my health and the baby's health to just leave us alone unless he can learn to be respectful and be a decent person. So he never responds to the text (but decides to be all over social media flirting left and right with other girls...mind you we've only been truly not together for maybe a week). He then decides to post something this morning (again on social media) saying "well if we're not going to work it out then 💁🏽". Like, you really expected me to be stupid enough to believe you want to work anything out when you can't even respect me enough to take the fact that this child's health and my health are in jeopardy every time you stress me out and hurt me into consideration? Smh
Yanel·
Мама двоих (3 года, 6 лет), ждёт третьего
You're doing the right thing. Actions speak louder than words. Don't second guess yourself you've given him chances. and please don't stress about him.
Jenn Conyers·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (16 нед.)
@yanelmarie, thank you, it's hella hard not to second guess myself because all he's been doing ever since I've been standing my ground and asserting myself the way I need to is trying to make me out to be some monster and nightmare of a baby mother without telling the whole story and since I don't run to social media to air everything out to people we know the way he does, it's his twisted word against my truth, and anytime I stand up to him and call him out on his wrongdoing he says something horrible to me or about me or goes and runs to social media to flirt with other girls knowing I'll see it and knowing it'll hurt me, and my child doesn't need to be subjected to that or someone who had the nerve to question their paternity knowing 100% that this child was theirs and that they were the only person I had been with for the past 2 years.
Yanel·
Мама двоих (3 года, 6 лет), ждёт третьего
I may sound crazy but I am over my stigma. I have 3 children now with 3 fathers. The first was my first we physically fought for 2yrs because I wanted my son to have his family and not be separated. I learned when he jumped in the middle of a fight that it wasn't worth it. My second son, his father proposed to me. We were engaged when I got preg, I went to the court house to surprise him with the submitted application to find out he was already married. He had been cheating on her with me. (truck driver) When I was assertive I became this BS, Mean and spiteful BM. because I didn't go to FB all they went off was his word. I came home to her in our house. 4 years later I'm in the happiest, healthiest relationship I've had. Expecting my 3rd. He is an amazing Daddy to my sons. and their fathers continue to try to come back. I say this to say. my family is blended however if I had stayed around for the BS. I could be dead, or suffering from depression. Yes, you want him around. But imagine a peaceful happy life without him. Start blocking him out. Start documenting and screen shooting his BS. I promise your pregnancy will be much easier.
Pumpkin·
I'm kind of in the same situation now. Last year I was also pregnant. last year's pregnancy was the most stressful painful pregnancy I've ever had to go through. EVER!! The stress from that pregnancy had ultimately is what made my baby end up in the NICU, for almost a month( at full-term) You're definitely doing the right thing. I'm pregnant again ( unfortunately same dad) but my stress level is different. I actually can sleep and eat and THINK properly. And the difference is. . I've cut him off... we have very little communication. he tries to come back but I don't allow him around us( for the most part) because my health and my baby's health is more important than him trying to get his thing off... That's what it boils down to. it's hard but we already have a 5 month ol. but truth be told... I'm happier and very PEACEFUL WITHOUT HIM.