I have a question for any moms of blended families. My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child…

why doesn't your SO adopt her after you guys get married?

do she have your last name or her father's I may have a plan for you...@desiree,

@francesgln92, she mentioned having her name changed too but wanting to hide it from her dad so she wont hurt his feelings 😔. Hes still in the picture so i dont think thats an option

@alana_sunshine, I figured that

@mommycheeks, she has her dads last name. Which i tried to point out to her that we dont have the same last name now so it wont make a difference

if she wants her name changed I do think her father needs to okay it too. but just sit her down just you and your SO and explain just because she has a different last name doesn't mean you guys love her any less. I think she needs to hear it from your SO mainly.

OK listen I think if your fiance adopt her that would be disrespectful because her father is still around but if you get married you can go to public records and add to her name because she would share the same last name as you for example Holly Robinson-Pete but if you and you husband divorce not saying you will that's something to think of also she will be stuck with the name.. there for everyone one is happy when my babies come we will become the brady bunch so I completely understand what your going through @desiree

@desiree, I went through the same thing with my daughter and i just explain to her that she have her father lastname which is why she's his Princess and by me having my husband lastname makes me his Queen which one day will be change by her King and afterwards my husband explained to her that she be love no different then our boys nor treated any different cuz she's a very special little girl who has a Father, stepdad , Mother & stepmom @desiree

@alana_sunshine, yea i dont think he tryna hear that lol

@mommycheeks, hm I understand what ur saying. I just want her to understand and be ok with being herself. Her last name is a part of who she is.

@leslie863, yea I tried that. Hopefully she was listening and understands. She's very smart so i think she will. It was just so sad to see her crying like that

I totally get it @desiree

Trust me i know @desiree my daughter 10 now & was 7 when i had that talk & to put icing on the 🎂 to be tease majes it even harder

Just explain to her a name doesn't change a bond or a connections. That as long as she exist you, hubby and her father will always love her and that she makes her dad so very proud to sport his name and she should feel so very special to have a father that loves her enough to give her HIS name and it make her even more that unique. Also I'd talk to the child who is obliviously older cause younger kids don't think along those lines. And let them know not to say things like that it at least have hubby speak with her. Good luck.

@baby6aryn, yes. Thank u