hi can I have some advice of what I should do please.... breaking down here... my OH basically is…

Aww so sorry hun that you're going through this, I would personally confront him about what I know and question him about it. I know it's frightening but I'd rather know the truth than to be driving myself crazy with "what if's" then I'd take it from there. Only you know what you would want to do if the outcome is bad, but I know what I'd have done. It may very well be that he's been flirting but hadn't done the dirty yet (although that's still cheating in my books) but that's something you can perhaps work with and he may stop and be very apologetic, I'd have also taken the girls details and found out from them as when people are scared (our OH's) they will most probably lie. I'm not saying you should do these things, but it's something I'd do because I've been in your situation before and was devastated, my heart was pounding and I felt much better for knowing so I could end the relationship than when I didn't know and my imagination was running wild and I was filled with anxiety xx

I have done all this and when I do ask the girls they message him again saying I've messaged them being little bitches I get fed up with that and he always come up with the awnser it's just banter xx

Hmm so that means the girls are fully aware of you then, he seems very disrespectful to me. I guess you'll have to decide what you want to do about it hun since he seems to be refusing to show you the respect you deserve and stop what he's doing, I wish you strength and luck with whatever you decide to do about it. xx

be honest and confront him and see how he reacts keeping it to yourself will.not solve it 😀