I hate that my BD thinks its so hard to pick between his kid and his new girlfriend to that I say. I'll make it easy for you and go ahead and pick her. cause if u honestly have to think about it your pathetic. NO boy or girl should ever come before your child/ren irregardless of the situation you have going on with the mother of your child! just makes me realize am making the right choices everyday and I pray that God continues to help me!