My boyfriends family has a very different set of rules when raising children than I do. They kinda…
My boyfriends family has a very different set of rules when raising children than I do. They kinda rule with an iron fist with a "do as i say, not as i do" and no talking back attitude and i believe in demanding respect without inducing fear and having an open line of communication while letting my daughter respectfully express her feelings. My boyfriend is starting to open his mind and drift towards doing things in a way that works for both of us. But his mother not so much.
There have been moments where she feels as though she has to butt in and say something when I'm dealing with my daughter and it really irritates me. I mean if I'm not around i would expect for her to step in and say something because she is the only adult atm but if im there, i feel as thought she should not overstep me as the mother. (Mind you, my daughter is from a previous relationship and of no relation to her).
How would u mommies feel in that situation?
Amanda·
I would be ticked. Even between me and my husband, if one of us is handling a situation, the other is not to butt in and take charge unless asked. It confuses the little ones and totally demeans your role as a parent. Honestly, I would put my foot down if I were you. I've had the same thing happen with my mother. It's very irritating. Some people are very overbearing and have no respect or boundaries unless you set and enforce them. /:
C.·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (22 нед.)
my mother in law is this way. she spanks the older kids (not hard) but I put my foot down and made she knew that even though I respect her time as a mother, she is not the mother of my child. I've also made clear what I feel is acceptable so that if she is caring for my child, she has the necessary tools to do so. we have made it very clear that if this boundary is crossed, there will be consequences.
Kayla·
Мама дочки (1 год)
I feel the same but it's my father in law that lets my daughter do whatever she wants and I'm trying to teach my daughter to be a good kid and not a brat like her cousin, who has no manners what so ever and is 2 years older than she is. I haven't said anything to him but my husband knows how I feel. (my daughter is not related to them as well). I feel like as a mother, as long as you are there in the area then you should be in charge of your child's actions and no one else should parent them unless you've let them know that they are able to instruct your child and such
Stephanie·
В ожидании первенца
I would kindly tell her that you are the mother and you don't need her help disciplining your child . For one she would not even be allowed to say anything to my child because she is just a step grandmother . When it come to the step parents or grand parents I feel like they have no right to say anything that involves the child . But that's just my opinion , sometimes it's different when they are really involve with the child life more than father and his family . But I think you should just tell her how you feel .
Bianca·
Мама сына (7 лет), беременна (32 нед.)
I'd feel the same way as you