Okay, First things first, please don't leave rude comments. You may state your opinion, however, I don't want rude…

Okay, First things first, please don't leave rude comments. You may state your opinion, however, I don't want rude comments because, I know what I feel I could be wrong l, but I just want to see what other people think, so I can figure out what I could do to help me not feel the way that I'm feeling. I'm strictly here for advice about this situation because, this problem is making my life a living hell.

Anyways, my husband and I have been together for Four Years, as of this March and we have been married for a Year. I have always had a problem with his Mother, (my Mother-In-Law). I guess not really a problem but, I would always get the vibe that she wants to constantly be stuck at my Husband's butt which, I suppose is okay, because you only have one Mom, and one Dad, to an extent that is, and to me, she kind of overloads that "extent". Anyways, Four Months into the relationship with my Husband, we had an accident and I found out I was pregnant, though we were thrilled about the situation the excitement did not last long, because I found out I had miscarried. I'm not sure how far along I was because, the only thing I ever got out of the pregnancy was the pregnancy test. I had took a pregnancy test Three different times, and each time they came out positive. I was living with my Mother at the time, and my Husband, (Boyfriend at the time) his Mom's. My Husband lived right down the road from me, I could walk to his house. The night I found out I had miscarried, my Mother took me to the Hospital and I had been having some spotting, the spotting was Brown, then when I went to the bathroom and whipped, it showed Dark Red spotting. At First, I didn't think I was having a miscarriage, because I didn't have any pain but, because my Mom had several miscarriages, she wanted to take me to make sure everything was okay. In fact, I am her only child. When I had went to the hospital they asked me if I was sure that this was the only time I had bled, I told him yes, they said the reason they asked was because they took a blood test and urine test and they both came back negative. About a month later, I had found out I was pregnant again, this time I was actually able to see the baby, and get an Ultrasound because, I was that far along. I was also able to see an OB/GYN too. When I got my First, and only ultrasound, I brought my Mom, my Cousin, my Aunt, and my Husband. When the Ultrasound Technician pulled up the screen my Mother, (of course she was the First one to notice), and everyone else, noticed that there were Two Gestational SAC's. When my Mother said something about it, I look at the Ultrasound Technician, and her face was upsetting. I knew something was wrong, but nobody said anything. I was about Eight Weeks pregnant, and my baby still look like a Pea. One of the Gestational SAC's looked empty, so I was assuming I had twins. The First One was the One I had lost a Month ago, the previous miscarriage I had. When I went to ask the Ultrasound Technician if I could have a photo of my baby, she looked at me with upsetting eyes, and told me she had to ask someone. Normally, they give you the picture without you asking, but once she said that, I 100 percent knew that something was wrong. I was able to get the photo, but later that day, the news came out that my Husband's Brother was having a baby with this girl that he had been dating for a little longer or about the same time as me and my Husband had been together. To me, it seem like my Husband's Mother, was more excited for My Husband's Brother's Girlfriend's pregnancy, than with mine, and my Husband's. My reason for this is because, when she would talk about it, I could see the excitement. She never once talked about our pregnancy, never asked about the ultrasound photos or anything. Well, just before we found out my Husband's Brother's Girlfriend was pregnant, my Husband's Brother had texted us saying that, he had no luck that his "boys" we're not swimming. Now, of a sudden his Girlfriend is pregnant? Anyways, one day, my Husband's Mom showed us the Ultrasound photo of my Husband's Brother's Girlfriend's baby. This Ultrasound looked NOTHING Like mine. Hers had Two stubby arms, and Two stubby legs. You could tell where the babies head begins, and where it ends. Mine?, Ha, mine looked like a Pea still. My Husband's, Brother's, Girlfriend, was only a week ahead of me, so I knew something was not right. At this time, I was living with my Husband's Dad, we went to the store to get an Intellegender Predictor, because we wanted to know what we were having, even if something was to happen. When we did it, it turned green, which meant boy, My Husband told his Brother, and his Brother went out and bought his Girlfriend One too. When my Husband proposed to me, my Husband's, Brother, asked my Husband were he had gotten the Ring at, and his Brother, went and got the same Ring at the same place. Another thing he did was, when we found out we were pregnant the very FIRST time, that's when his Brother was trying to have a baby with his Girlfriend. It was like, they were trying to copy everything we were doing. When I went for another Ultrasound, I had a Doctor Appointment that same day, so she could tell me about my baby. The Doctor said that the baby had stopped growing at Six Weeks, and I was Ten Weeks and somewhat days at the time, and she said, that the baby ended up dying at exactly Ten weeks, almost Three Months pregnant. I was devastated, I had lost Two babies in Two Minths, back to back. I was also devastated because, the Doctor asked if I had any bleeding, and I told her no. She said, that sometime soon, I will have some pain, and bleeding. She said, that is my body getting rid of the baby. She then said, if I didn't want that, she can schedule a D&C for me. I agreed, and the procedure was set. When my D&C was done, the next day I had jelly like blood clots coming out constantly. I went to the ER and they told me that my body was having contractions. All night since my D&C and even at the ER, I was in excruciating pain, and no amount of pain medication would help, something was defiantly wrong. That night, the Doctor at the ER checked me and, told me that my OB/GYN didn't get all the baby out! This makes me believe that A, I was pregnant with twins, and the D&C was not a success because nobody knew, or B, the OB/GYN who did the D&C is clueless, and does not know how to do her job. It is funny because, the OB/GYN had just told me before she did the procedure, that she has never messed up before. Well, at the ER, I was having the second surgery by a different OB/GYN, and I felt so much better. Afterwards, the pain I was feeling before I got to the hospital, was gone! The blood clots stopped too. Although, after the procedure was done, I woke up screaming "I want my baby!", I was so devastated, my whole Family was at the hospital with me. My Husband's Mom came before the procedure was done, and the only reason she showed up, was to give my Husband a sub, that is it. She didn't say anything to me, she didn't even give her condolences and say she was sorry, nothing. That really upset me as well, because, this was her grandbaby too, and we had just lost it! A couple weeks later, my Husband proposed to me, we were so happy that something was going right. We showed my Husband's Dad, and at the time, my Husband's Brother, and his Girlfriend were there. My Husband's, Brother's, Girlfriend, had the odasity, to say that we should slow down, it's just puppy love. That she had been married before, and it ended bad, because she was young. I was so pissed off, because I had just lost Two babies, and she got to keep hers, and to top it off, I never got an "I'm sorry" by her, or anyone in that matter. So, I was was hurt. As my Husband's, Brother's, Girlfriend, got more pregnant and more pregnant, the more my Husband, and I avoided her, and everyone in the Family, because we had just lost our babies, and we were still grieving. Everyone was ecstatic that my Husband's, Brother's, Girlfriend, was pregnant, but nobody seemed to care that we had just lost Two of our own. When we found out the gender of my Husband's, Brother's Girlfriend's baby, we found that they were having a Girl. We found out by my Husband's Mom, even though we had just lost Two of our babies, my my Husband's Mom had no shame in calling my Husband's phone, and telling us "It's a Girl!" My Husband's Mom had Three Boys, she was never able to have the thrill of a Daughter. I could tell how excited she was, at this point of time my Husband and I were living with my Mom. The day our Niece was finally born I was still depressed that I had lost both my babies. We never went to family events, we never wanted to be around my Husband's, Brother's Girlfriend, because of the comment she made about my Husband, and I getting married. We also didn't want to be around our Niece because, you were still grieving. I felt like I could not have a baby. A little over a Year later, the day after Christmas, we found out we were expecting again. When we were about Five weeks pregnant, we told my Husband's Mom. My Husband says "Guess whose pregnant." His Mom said my name, but when she said it, it was like an "I don't care" kind of tone. Eventually, she came along, so I came along as well. We went to my Niece's First Birthday Party, and I was so excited because, I felt bad that I was not there for her First Year of life but, I was grieving. I was Four Months pregnant, and it seem like everyone was happy for me, and talking to me, and it was just an amazing feeling. My Husband's Mom even went with us to find out the gender of the baby. We found out we were having a Boy! We finally got to get this far to actually know the gender of our Son! My Husband's Mom has Three Boys, I didn't care what I had, as long as he or she was healthy, especially after I just lost Two babies. Once we had our Son, my Husband's, Brother, got into some drugs, Heroine was his drug of choice, and him and, his Girlfriend, now Wife, had split up, and she wouldn't allow anyone on my Husband's side of the Family to see our Niece, not even my Husband's Brother. Eventually, my Husband's Brother got to see my Niece every Saturday, and he would bring her to my Husband's Mom's house eventually, my Husband's Brother, and his Wife tried working it out, and when they were trying to work it out, there was a restraining order,or PFA, on my Husband's Brother, that my Husband's, Brother's, Wife, and her Mother put on him, but my Husband asked his Brother to be one of the Groomsmen in our Wedding. We also had our Wedding on a Saturday, so our Niece could be the Flower Girl. When all this was being said my Husband's, Brother's, Wife, asked us, if she could be in the Wedding too. I never got along with this Girl, and I barely knew her. It took a lot of convincing, because she made it seem like, that if she was not even invited to the wedding, that our Niece wouldn't be in the wedding, and my Husband's, Brother, wont be in it either. So, we compromised, and said that she can come to the Wedding, but she can't be in it, and if she starts anything, she has to leave. She agreed, but then she started to tell me where she was going to be sitting. There was no assigned seats, but if there was, I would be the One to tell her where she would be sitting, not her. She was trying to make it all about her. She was also wearing a short red dress, that should basically everything. I was also told, that my Husband's Brother, and his Wife, had sex outside of our Wedding, and our Wedding was at my Husband's place of employment, he works at a Hotel. Now, before the Wedding, we had the Wedding Rehearsal, there, my Husband's Brother, went to the store to get my Niece something to snack on. My Niece, and my Husband's, Brother's, Wife, stayed at the Hotel, but my Husband's Brother, took his Wife's phone, and her car to the store. The car insurance is under her name, but the car was on her parents name. He is not supposed to be near his Wife, because there is a protection order, or PFA against him, and he had been drinking that night, so if he got caught drinking and driving, he was going to get in a lot of trouble. When he came back, he was in rage, he was calling his Wife a Whore, a Slut, etc. Reason being, he had her phone, and seen that a guy was texting her, and they were going to meet up. It made no sense to me because, they were kissing and hugging at the rehearsal, and then this happens?. What agitated me was, this is happening at my Husband's place of employment, and at our Wedding Rehearsal. My Husband's Brother had stormed out yet again, and took his Wife's phone and car, and didn't come back for a while. I guess eventually they got over it, because they were fine at the Wedding, but after, is when it all changed. They had broke it off, and she started dating the guy who, she was texting at the Wedding Rehearsal. It was like, she only wanted to be around for my Wedding, to be nosy. Since then, we have not seen my Niece. My Husband's Mom has seen her but, since now it has been a little over Nine Months. My Husband's Mom, and his Brother's now Ex-Wife, never got along. My Husband's, Brother's Ex-Wife states, that his Mom enables her Ex-Husband's drinking. She also says, she smokes around my Niece, which is why she has a breathing problem now. She also states, she curses in front of her as well. Basically, it is making her sound like a terrible person. Well, this is where the problem starts. Every time my Husband, and I go to his Mom's with our Son - her Grandson, she always talks about my Niece. Apparently, she has a court date for Grandparent Rights, and that is all she talks about. To me, you have a Grandsontoo, be thankful that you get to see him. When we come over, after a month of her not seeing her Grandson, I feel she should be about him, not her Granddaughter. To me, it hurts, and the problem is, I feel like she is favoring my Niece, rather than my Son, or, loving them equally, or showing them each affection, and love equally. I understand she had Three Boys, and she never got the bond of a Daughter. I understand that she has not seen her Granddaughter in a little over Nine Months, and the most she has not seen my Son, is One Month, she doesn't put up much of a fight to see him, like she does with her Granddaughter, at least in my eyes. I even felt this way since BEFORE my Son was born. Before my Son was Born, my Husband's Mother had stated "I hope he doesn't cry a lot, I hope he is like your Niece, she never cried. I hope he is a good baby, and doesn't cry. When he was born, he had really bad Acid Reflux, so he cried all the time. When we would visit my Husband's Mom, she would be confused, and I could tell she was getting irritated. When we got the problem fixed, he didn't cry as much, but, it still hurt that she would say something like that about her unborn Grandson. Even before we got the problem fixed, she would compare my Niece and my Son by saying things like "My Granddaughter never cried so much, he must be colic". Well, yesterday was my Niece's Third Birthday, and my Mother-In/Law had posted something about it on Favebook. my Mother-In-Law has never posted anything on Facebook about my Son's Birthday. I understand , like I said before, that she has not seen her in a long while, but how can you post something about her, after not seeing her for a long while, but when you actually get to see my Son, especially after a whole Month, why don't you post anything on Facebook about you finally being able to see him? I'm not sure if it was planned to see my Niece, or not, because my Mother-In-Law lives more upstate and she went downstate to a Walmart, where they seen her. She posted a status saying, she was getting tall like her Mom-Mom, you know, my Son is tall and she never compares herself with my Son. She was posting how she got lots of hugs and kisses and got to wish her a Happy Birthday, I know my Mother-In-Law, and it's like she was saying this to hurt people, not just me, and not just my Husband, but there are other people on Facebook, who don't get to see her at all. My Husband's Dad is a good example! My Husband's Dad, and Mom are separated, and his Dad, has a really bad case of diabetes's so, the only way for him to see my Niece, or my Son, is if my Niece or my Son, go over there. He has not seen my Niece in over a Year. Where as, my Husband's Mom had not seen my Niece in Nine Months. My Husband's Mom was working, and my Ex-Sister-In-Law brought my Niece up to see her. I was just hurt, because, she has never posted anything about my Son on Facebook, about how much she missed him or that she got hugs, and kisses from him, I just feel like she's favoring my Niece, and it is like, every time my Husband leaves the room, my Mother-In-Law brings up my Niece or my Brother-In-Law. I just don't understand why she's doing this. On my Niece's Birthday, she even had the odasity, to ask if my Husband was working, like she wanted to come over something. My Husband was working, and on my Niece's Birthday, she got my Son something. It makes no sense, I'm going back-and-forth with this Woman. I want her to fight to see my Son, like she's fighting to see my Niece. I think maybe it is a jealousy issue, or do you think she actually is favoring her? To me, she should have more of a bond with my Son. She does not get to see my Niece, and she had Three Boys of her own. She should be able to see each One of her Son's, in my Son. I guess she longs the feeling of a Daughter, but she has both, she has the best of both worlds. My Son is the only Great-Grandson, and Great- Nephew on my Husband's Mom's side, there are Five Great-Granddaughters, and Great-Niece's. I also forgot to mention before my Mother-In-Law seen my Niece at Walmart, she asked how my Husband likes his new job. When he replied to her, no response. No response ALL DAY. He texted her around the same time she seen my Niece but, that is no excuse to completely ignore a text message! When we do not respond to her messages right away, she throws a tantrum. Since, my Son is the only Great-Grandson, and the only Great-Nephew, on my Husband's Mother's side, I don't understand why it seems like nobody realizes about my Son! Maybe I'm just jealous, because I lost my Two babies, maybe I'm just paranoid, or maybe I am right, who knows. I just want other people's opinions. It isn't just my family though, it is a lot of people in my life. I understand people who already have one gender, but for people who don't have any kids, and already have a preference on what they want, really upsets me, especially when they find out the gender, and is not what they want, and they get really emotional, and upset. What about the people who can't have kids? It took me a little over year to have my Son. I had Two miscarriages, back to back, so it upsets me to see people upset about stuff like that. Normally, I see people complain about, if they have a Boy, and they want to Girl. I know that there are some people out there who want to Boy, and not a Girl, but it seems like it is rare. It also upsets me that, people tell me that Girls are more fun to shop for. That isn't true, there are plenty of things you can shop for, for Boys, and have just as much fun, if not more, as you would if you were having a Girl. It upsets me, that people think that Boy's are easier because, that is not true either. Just because,when your Daughter is older and, you have to buy her tanpon's , Pad's, and Bra's, that does not make anything easier or harder. Every kid is different and to me no gender is more easier than the other. What do guys think about my situation?.