Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for the past 7 years and have been on for the last year and…

Put your foot down. If he wont make you happy, someone else will. Demand what you deserve you have every right.

I'm not sure of your age, but in 24 and married with baby #2 on the way. Truthfully by him telling you he's not ready is a good thing. It's better for you both to be ready together, but girl you have to make it a requirement for him to propose to you. Give him a deadline and if he doesn't met it leave him and I bet he will be ready when he sees you're serious

Love, it's just a piece of paper. If your already acting married then just let it be. I would say don't put your foot down you can't rush a man to be something he isn't ready to be. If it's the name thing... Change it... If it's the taxes thing... File together, living together.. Do it... If it's a ring thing... Ask for a promise ring, but don't force him into something.. He won't be happy and your marriage won't be happy.

No put your foot Down girl! It's not just a piece of paper! If you guys act like you guys are already married why not get married?

@mrs.fernandez, agreed! Do not settle your dreams because he won't step up smh. If he isn't ready after all of this time then I hate to say it but it's time to move on. He's already waisted so much of your time...... Marriage is way more than a piece of paper, a ring and taxes! You want to be with a man that is proud to call you his wife! That will be linked and bonded to you spiritually more than anything. You can't rush a man but you don't need to settle your feelings in support of him. Smh. Don't let him walk over you like that.

Well said @sexxymama83

I would have to disagree! You do not rush anyone into something they're not ready for. How would you feel is someone pressured you into something your not ready for? Granted marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. It's a commitment. Before you start giving the deadlines figure out why he's not ready. Ask him what's holding him back from marrying you? Have a serious sit down about it. But first you need to ask yourself how do you know your ready to be married? Because being married and acting married or playing house is totally different. Ask yourself why do I want to get married? How do I know this is the man for me? You can't look at someone else situation and say I want that. Just because others are married or engaged to get married doesn't mean you should be or have to be. But if you really want to get married and he don't your going to have to make some really hard decisions. Just make sure you are prepared for any outcome. Always remember to follow your heart. Good luck!

I feel like having a child with someone is more of a commitment than marriage. When you have kids with a person you have that bond forever. Technically you are married.

I agree with @ameshia25. She said everything I was going to!