Has anyone else ever forgiven a cheater? Some days I'm fine but others I wonder if I made the right…

i never have, i would dry myself crazy.

I have. We did counseling together and then separately. Took a while but we are finally in the best place our relationship has ever been in. I still feel those emotions at times but I not project them onto him since it was my choice to stay. I work through them with the skills our counselor taught me

I have. It happened during my pregnancy with my daughters that he began talking to his ex again and I was always cautious. Then after we lost the girls she began wanting to hang out with him more and they slept together. It wasn't until I had depression that he split and realized that he didn't want her but me. I'm working on it because we're expecting again but it was really hard.

I'm in the process of forgiving my fiancé for emotionally cheating. I'm sure it seems silly, but i caught him texting multiple women flirting and talking about hooking up, he never did but its still the same to me. he's proven to me day after day now that it wont happen again. its just a matter of being open and keeping communication very open. you have to be able to talk and work though it. i was questioning if i made the right decision but i now know i did.

@pixiestix, that's what he did but it was one woman. At least that was the only one I found out about and that's all that I had proof of. It had been going on for a while before I fully caught him. The biggest thing I'm having trouble getting over is I confronted him about it once before and he lied. I didn't have proof then because it was deleted. He seemed really upset with himself for it.

has he since admitted to it? my fiancé only tried to deny it for a few seconds. then i started quoting texts. they own up to it pretty quickly then. lol does he seem like hes doing things differently? being more open with his phone or making sure you know what hes doing or who hes talking to?

@pixiestix, the first time I noticed the text I didn't get the chance to read them. he took his phone back and said he was going out to smoke and needed his phone. he deleted the conversation with her. He's never hid his password so I thought he was being faithful but when he started getting jumpy when I was playing a game on his phone I got suspicious. First time I checked I found a picture of one of his employees in her underwear. When I confronted him about that I also asked about the texts he deleted. he denied it then. he only admitted it the second time when I left a message on his phone with the new messages to and from her.

Not much has changed. He says he put a stop to it and avoids the subject of what he did. when it gets brought up he gets upset about it and seems regretful of what he did.

Although once he was talking about how he was learning that you have to make sacrifices in a relationship and said that him being faithful was one of those sacrifices.

It's really hard but I have! It takes time!

My ex boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me and I took him back but I just couldn't get over it. It hung over our heads like a dark cloud and we weren't even married or had kids or anything! My husband and I have an understanding that if we ever did that too each other our relationship would be over. It's easier said than done but I know that I couldn't look at him the same! It takes a strong person to be able to forgive and move on and I guess I'm just not that person. Being faithful is a sacrifice? I don't like the way that sounds.. Lol