I have noticed that since having our 1st baby, my life has changed about 95%. My hubby's.....maybeeee...8%. Don't get me wrong...hubby is an amazing father when he has time or wants to be. It just seems like there is A WHOLE LOT less slacking off 4 me. Your not alone hun!
@graciebaby, it's so hard because I just want to be able to just go out and enjoy myself. He goes hangs out with friends, he goes fishing for hours upon hours, he does all of that. And when I want to go out to get away from everyone including him I'm the bad guy. I can't even take a fucking bath without him coming in there . I'm taking care of our baby( and don't get me wrong I love it, I love being a mom) but moms need breaks too.
@emmysfishies, i hear you completely. We have 2 older ones and another on the way. Been together for 9 years which has made me realize that when he goes out drinking w friends etc I can take a little Xtra money out of the savings for me ;) He can't say nothing about it because I'm keeping myself and kids busy "for the day". I usually save the $$$ and wait on a day that I can have some1 watch my kids-i are at school and spoil myself. Let me tell u, it may not seem like much, but when ur overwhelmed w kids...feel unappreciated...and down right crappy about urself-
That little chunk of change I saved feels well spent and is like an f-u 2 him like he does 2 me.
@graciebaby, I'm in an argument with him right now. We live with my family, I was trying to take a nap on the couch when he got home from his friends. My mom said "well I'm going to give her a bath with your help or not" i said Sterling will help u. I wake up to her crying my mom trying to rush and get the bath together for my daughter and where is Sterling? Playing video games and so I walked back there and said " it's not my mothers responsibility to take care Of Emmalyn, nor is it ALWAY my time to take care of her." And he said "don't be a bitch knock it off" I said no you knock it off. God. There are some moments where I'm like wtf are you doing for me. Giving me a paycheck? Whatever
lol sounds familiar except my hubby doesnt play video games. He's a tinker lol Trying 2 fix things, make things better, cleaning etc. Always something that has 2 be done. More of like: man work & wo-man clean house-cave man crap. I hear ya on that though, I'd probably loose my shit if he was sitting down staring at a game machine :/ My sister's SO is like that. I sware the most lazy man I've ever met! When we had our 1st we were living w my family and my mother would step in a lot to help give me a break although she worked long hours. She still enjoyed it. I guess that's what mothers are for. Hopefully as baby gets older hell be more involved and not so cave minded like my hubby.
Ur not alone! I think we all go through some sort of struggle especially in the 1st year baby is born. Some people on here just choose 2 share the rainbows and pot of gold-if u know what I mean. It's good 2 get things off ur chest and vent although knowingly u ultimately choose 2 stay w the butthead (as I call my hubby lol). There will be ups and downs throughout ur relationship and life in general from raising ur child together 2 forgetting where u 2 are romantically. I guess it's how u both choose 2 deal w it I guess. Also how much u think u can take. I've taken a whole lot of crap in these 9 years w our soon to be 3 kids. The good, the bad, and whatever is in between. Don't stress urself out so much on the BS. Just let ur voice be known so he doesn't walk all over u.
W us it's a give n take more or less. Sucks 2 say this but it really is tit for tat at times -u did this so I'll do that kind of deal. In the end we love eachother and end up at some sort of agreement, even if it's "we agree to disagree".
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
I have noticed that since having our 1st baby, my life has changed about 95%. My hubby's.....maybeeee...8%. Don't get me wrong...hubby is an amazing father when he has time or wants to be. It just seems like there is A WHOLE LOT less slacking off 4 me. Your not alone hun!
missing363user·
Мама дочки-младенца
@graciebaby, it's so hard because I just want to be able to just go out and enjoy myself. He goes hangs out with friends, he goes fishing for hours upon hours, he does all of that. And when I want to go out to get away from everyone including him I'm the bad guy. I can't even take a fucking bath without him coming in there . I'm taking care of our baby( and don't get me wrong I love it, I love being a mom) but moms need breaks too.
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
@emmysfishies, i hear you completely. We have 2 older ones and another on the way. Been together for 9 years which has made me realize that when he goes out drinking w friends etc I can take a little Xtra money out of the savings for me ;) He can't say nothing about it because I'm keeping myself and kids busy "for the day". I usually save the $$$ and wait on a day that I can have some1 watch my kids-i are at school and spoil myself. Let me tell u, it may not seem like much, but when ur overwhelmed w kids...feel unappreciated...and down right crappy about urself-
That little chunk of change I saved feels well spent and is like an f-u 2 him like he does 2 me.
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
@emmysfishies, may not work for every1 but 4 me, it's how I deal. That and the seldom nights out I guilt him into letting me go lol
missing363user·
Мама дочки-младенца
@graciebaby, I'm in an argument with him right now. We live with my family, I was trying to take a nap on the couch when he got home from his friends. My mom said "well I'm going to give her a bath with your help or not" i said Sterling will help u. I wake up to her crying my mom trying to rush and get the bath together for my daughter and where is Sterling? Playing video games and so I walked back there and said " it's not my mothers responsibility to take care Of Emmalyn, nor is it ALWAY my time to take care of her." And he said "don't be a bitch knock it off" I said no you knock it off. God. There are some moments where I'm like wtf are you doing for me. Giving me a paycheck? Whatever
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
lol sounds familiar except my hubby doesnt play video games. He's a tinker lol Trying 2 fix things, make things better, cleaning etc. Always something that has 2 be done. More of like: man work & wo-man clean house-cave man crap. I hear ya on that though, I'd probably loose my shit if he was sitting down staring at a game machine :/ My sister's SO is like that. I sware the most lazy man I've ever met! When we had our 1st we were living w my family and my mother would step in a lot to help give me a break although she worked long hours. She still enjoyed it. I guess that's what mothers are for. Hopefully as baby gets older hell be more involved and not so cave minded like my hubby.
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
Don't u just wanna strangle them sometimes?!?! I feel the same way!
missing363user·
Мама дочки-младенца
@graciebaby, yes. A million times yes. I am so struggling today.
Mommy-x3·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
Ur not alone! I think we all go through some sort of struggle especially in the 1st year baby is born. Some people on here just choose 2 share the rainbows and pot of gold-if u know what I mean. It's good 2 get things off ur chest and vent although knowingly u ultimately choose 2 stay w the butthead (as I call my hubby lol). There will be ups and downs throughout ur relationship and life in general from raising ur child together 2 forgetting where u 2 are romantically. I guess it's how u both choose 2 deal w it I guess. Also how much u think u can take. I've taken a whole lot of crap in these 9 years w our soon to be 3 kids. The good, the bad, and whatever is in between. Don't stress urself out so much on the BS. Just let ur voice be known so he doesn't walk all over u.
W us it's a give n take more or less. Sucks 2 say this but it really is tit for tat at times -u did this so I'll do that kind of deal. In the end we love eachother and end up at some sort of agreement, even if it's "we agree to disagree".