So I was getting really frustrated earlier because we had a very long day and I barely slept last…
So I was getting really frustrated earlier because we had a very long day and I barely slept last night. well after my shower, I was doing my nightly routine and couldnt find my face moisturizer(I am really ocd about routine and I have a dry face so it gets itchy if I dont use it). Well, I knew one of my kiddos had it earlier so I was asking my SO if he knew where it was. he said no but put no effort into helping me find it(while I had just finished cleaning the house. putting our kids to bed, and setting out his clothes for him for work in the am, helping him). I started crying because my body ached, I was tired, and frustrated. Well he just stayed laying in bed and telling me that I didnt need it and that I needed to stop crying about it and that it was "just fucking makeup".... so I went to the living room and sat on the couch crying now cuz he was being rude and not trying to help. I told him to leave me alone but he wouldnt and just kept telling me to stop crying and that he would "go to fucking walmart" if it was so important. he ended up coming to bed and falling asleep. I gave up and when I came and got in bed(which i onky did cuz I couldnt fimd another blanket) guess what? my moisturizer was right on it! maybe if he coulda moved his ass for a second. anyways, so when I came in his phone was sitting on my side of the bed cuz I normally plug it in at night cuz the outlets on my side of the bed and I wake him when his alarm goes off in the am
... lol and he expects me to help him when he wouldnt help me? I really dont wanna plug it in. hopefully it stays on the bed and he hears his alarm in the morning. Is that mean?
Dawna·
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I go through the same thing with my husband, it is sooooo frustrating. But he expects me to jump up and do whatever it is he's asking. I wouldn't plug the phone in but that's just me and I'm super petty when it comes to stuff like that.
missing436user·
Мама дочки-младенца
nope... not mean at all... you aren't his mommy he's a big boy. maybe he should be more considerate about how you feel and be more helpful. he can't expect you to do everything. he isn't a child but a grown man... I think you need to have a talk with him because the way he treated you was very disrespectful. even if he thought why you were crying was stupid it shouldn't matter he should still console you and try to make you feel better...
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
yup and he was like "oh its ok for you to be mad at me but the second I am mad at you its not" k, turn everything around on me like always. I hate that. when I climbed in bed I just scooted the phone over. then I got on here for a second opinion. @frankiesmama He coulda plugged it in while I was out there crying and he was in here being a douche. Dont expect shit from me if you are gonna act like that
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@destiny_elizabeth, we seriously have this talk all the time. he makes me feel like I am not allowed to cry and it makes me feel like things that obviously are important to me dont matter to him at all.
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
and I did throw in a few "fuck you's" but that was after he was cussing at me and I was out on the couch and he came out and kept arguing with me and wouldnt just walk away when i asked him to.
Dawna·
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For my husband every time I'm mad about something I'm just a "crybaby." (his actual term that he uses) The thought never crosses his mind that I have a legitimate reason to be upset. He definitely could have plugged it in himself. Treat me like shit and still expect me to do stuff for you? No honey I don't play that game.
missing436user·
Мама дочки-младенца
Yup my fiance gets that way sometimes and I just tell him what's up... I don't deal well. and since you're pregannt your emotions are waked anyway cause of hormones he needs to be more understanding
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@frankiesmama, exactly! I was like "I just got done making sure you had work clothes set out for morning and you dont even offer to help me" and his response was "Well i dont know where it would be" obviously neither do I or I wouldnt be having this problem! and maybe had you got up off your ass for 2 seconds you would have seen it on the damn bed.
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
and he kept saying "you dont need it" "you will be fine without it for a night" CUZ YOU KNOW. ugh. @frankiesmama
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@destiny_elizabeth, exactly! And I seriously barely slept last night and he knows that! then we went out of town all day, came home and cleaned, put the kids to bed and was ready to lau down but couldnt find my stuff! I just wanted to lay down!!!
Dawna·
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It was a definite douche move. I have been going through the same thing with my husband the past couple of days, I've been so angry all day and still am, I can't even sleep. Which is why I'm here scrolling through Preggie lol. I feel like since guys don't actually go through the pregnancy they dont understand the toll it takes on us both physically and mentally. I feel like my husband doesn't take my pregnancy seriously because he always makes the comment "You're not even big yet" Ok so because I'm not absolutely huge I can't be tired? My feet can't hurt? My back can't hurt? I can't not be in the mood? All that stuff adds up so I really don't blame you for being upset about a moisturizer. Like it may seem little and inconsequential but it's important to you and that's what matters.
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@frankiesmama, exactly! and he was like "I didnt know it was so important" well maybe if you listened to me and saw that i was effing crying about it then maybe you would get the idea! I think you knew. ugh. And it especially just sucked because it was his day off and we had such a good day. It was not a good end to it :( And he I hate that he went to bed and didnt apologize.....
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@frankiesmama, also I feel you on the pain! you are a little farther along than me but man have ny hips and lower back been hurting yhe few days! This is my second pregnancy and I did not go through this the first time.
Dawna·
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I hate that too, how he can not say a damn thing to me and sleep soundly while I'm sitting here fuming 😡
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@frankiesmama, I am not even mad right now. My stuff was found and I am kinda hoping I am asleep when his alarm goes off in the morning cuz he most likely won't wake up to it.... if his phone is even anywhere to be found with how much I toss and turn at night 😂😂😂
cassidy·
Мама двоих (2 года, 2 года), ждёт третьего
@frankiesmama, and best believe I am not gonna let it go in the morning until he feels shitty and apologizes. lol