I lost my mucous plug two weeks ago, my cervix is only 60% effaced and im not dilated at all so I don't really think it matters

No. everyone is different.

When I had my first I didn't dilate or soften until the day I was in labor 23.5 hours later my baby boy was born 4 years ago 😂

no some dont lose it or notice it

nope note at all. I'm only 28 weeks and my cervix is now softened but I'm no dilated and haven't lost my mucus plug.