Thanks ladies @sweet.twisted.logic and @tahtahme. I think we might just have a cookout since her birthday is in the summer.

Get a really cute little cake for her for pictures, but dont make it a big event, kind of a waste of money!

*to appreciate

I think parents should start small when it's before the child starts school. This way, the child will learn the appreciate what they have, if they do remember. Then once they start school, you can celebrate bigger and the kids will be able to contribute to the celebration plans. It'll be more special that way.