It has been so bad for me and my SO lately. I try to keep my hormones at bay and control them but if…

I'm sorry things are rough ): babies tend to put extra stress on you both. Maybe you can set a time and place to talk to him, in a neutral setting like a park or restaurant, and set up some rules for fighting. Like pick 4-5 things not to do to keep the fight fair. Eg. No name calling, when either of you two get upset take a "time out" from the fight, etc. That way when y'all fight again you have rules to keep things from getting too heated. And after y'all have your talk you can make a date of it ☺️ make it a pleasant experience. --apologies if I'm too preachy--

We have done so, he just doesn't care, which is what bothers me. The no name calling and just vulgarity is something we said years ago we would always strive not to do. I know I think we do need to take time outs. I just don't know how to handle this because we have never had problems like this. 😐 I try so hard to not get upset over everything but the one thing I might, somehow it's my fault and I end up feeling worse. Like today, it was because his room STILL isn't done and the crib is already in and the baby shower is this weekend and I wanted it done by now so I asked him when he was going to finish it cause we need to pick up the crib and he flipped out. 👎🏼 it just makes me so sad and he doesn't seem to care that it makes me sad anymore. Ugh. @evococa

Ooh I see ): yeah that definitely makes things more difficult. Totally been there. I'm sorry. That's so hard to navigate. But IMO it's always worth the fight to try and fix it. Have y'all had the chance to talk about the recent issues lately? I know with my guy, he doesn't take me seriously if I'm even the slightest bit emotional. Thinks I'm overreacting or going off my hormones and not being legitimately serious. Idk if you've been able to have a straight, emotionally neutral convo in a while about it, but if not maybe that will help sink it into his thick head that you have feelings that he needs to respect and you'll do the same.

I know, I mean I'm not leaving him over a fight or two especially because my hormones are probably in play as well as stress. And we have, he apologizes and is there for me cause he knows I've been struggling a little about it but then it's like as soon as something happens he flies off the handle about it. :( right now I'm kinda playing the ignore him card and make him realize it's not okay and that I am not going to put up with it. So frustrating.

@evococa,

Good for you. Besides, I'm sure you both could use some time to mull over things. Im glad y'all are working through it. So many people just throw in the towel when things get hard. Hope it gets better for you <3

Thank you for talking with me! I hope it gets better to because I can't handle this. Yeah I love him so I don't want to just give up. I hope maybe he will realize it's not okay. @evococa

Any time ^_^ I try to help where I can cause hubs and I have been to counseling twice now and picked up some helpful tools that I fee are worth sharing (: but you got this! You're already doing way better than most by just trying ☺️

Well I definitely appreciate it!!! Sometimes it's nice to just get it off your chest and try to relax. @evococa

Oooh for sure. If it weren't for venting I think we'd all explode lol.