Helppp. I want my mom to come to our ultrasound and my fiancé doesn't want her to come. What would…

why doesn't he want her to?

I would take my mom and say if he has a problem with it then he can wait until the next one

@tayhuth, tell him stop being so selfish that's your mom I would be lucky if my mother ever wanted to go with me.thats your choice I say let her come with you.

Tell him too bad. Lol I had my in laws come to one of mine. They enjoyed it and it's fun having them along for the process(:

@therockamom, I agree with you 100%

he has no choice if u want ur mom there he can't do nothing about it it's like me and my fiance I don't really want his mom there

This happened to us too...I told him that I am carrying the baby so my mom will be there. And last minute we invited his mom too...not my idea but a small price to pay:)

Spouse is always #1 priority. But There will be more then 1 ultrasound. Talk to him about why he wants it to be just the two of you. My husband likes it to be just us because he feels like it's a special intimate time and he doesn't want to share the spotlight with anybody else. Maybe you can compromise and have 1 ultrasound just the two of you. I'm the end - If he really doesn't want your mom there then I suggest you try to be respectful of that. I know many women disagree but those women Probabaly wont be with their SO forever. Spouse is first. Mom is second. If it's you that wants her there then talk to your SO about why.

@jana.bear, So because I disagree and I would respect my mom and let her enjoy that special moment with me, I'm not going to be with my husband forever? That's a really dense thing to say. I've been with my husband for seven years and married for two. My husband didn't raise me, my mother did. If she wanted to be there for one of my ultrasounds, he should respect that. Not one to be rude on here ever, but that's just a really ugly thing to say. Not everyone's relationship is the same as yours.

I would respect my SO wishes, and just schedule a ultrasound with an outside ultrasound company for my mom to come enjoy, that's you and your SO child so you have to take his feelings into consideration

I would respect my SO wishes, and just schedule a ultrasound with an outside ultrasound company for my mom to come enjoy, that's you and your SO child so you have to take his feelings into consideration

@therockamom, amen ! My mother is #1 because I'm always #1 to her ! I would never hurt my moms feelings like that. @Tay huth please don't hurt your moms feelings she is so excited about the baby you couldn't even imagine !

Honestly I think you should respect your finances wishes. He wants to it be just you guys. I know when I told my hubby we were having a baby I had my best friend and her hubby there and his buddy was staying with us so he was there.. And I regret that.. I now wish I would have told him alone just us to celebrate together.. You mom raised you, but HE will raise your child not your mother. I agree with @jana.bear your spouse should now be your #1. Can you record it or get a live video? We did that with our gender reveal ultrasound and I sent my mom and dad the link for them to watch. They both wanted to be there but couldn't. And I didn't want them there (glad they weren't we we a bit disappointed by the sex at first)

it's your ultrasound you should have who ever you want there you only have so many, I only had two I would like more

@therockamom, my point is that you should never ever pull a "to bad so sad" attitude with your SO. It's a great way to create resentment. That's why I suggested a compromise. Your husband didn't raise you, but he's the one that's going to be with you forever right? So sometimes you have to pick your battles. I just thought it was really scary to number of people saying that the SO's feelings didn't matter and she should do whatever she wants instead of suggesting opening a dialogue. I know that makes a lot of people defensive but that really alarmed me.

@jana.bear, @tayhuth I don't think you should pull a "too bad so sad" attitude with him. But family is really important to me. And yes, I am going to be with him forever, but my moms not going to be around forever though and if she really wanted to go, OF COURSE I'd have her there. I respect and love my husband, but it's about compromise. There are multiple ultrasounds to attend during pregnancy and I think it'd be unfair if he was writing off the fact that I would want my mom (the person that raised me and loves me more than anyone) to be at one of them. @firstone

i cant believe so many people are saying respect your SO wishes. thats a controling thing to do. your SO should respect YOUR wishes since YOU are pregnant and let your mother come. why tf should you sacrifice?! is he pregnant? His feelings matter yeah, but not more than yours expecially since you are pregnant and he is trying to exclude someone you love. his feeling now become controling over your own wants, needs, and family. i just think its so strange how many women get treated now and think its normal.... just put what you want aside and respect him.. um no fucking thank you.

@elamsmommy, Thank you 🙌🏻

Yeah id definitely let my mom come. Its not like its a random friend or distant family member, ITS YOUR MOM. Like she had you, lol. Idk what his reasoning is for not wanting her there but just let him know how important it is to her and how excited she is. Because trust me, im sure if his mom really wanted to come he'd let her w/ no hesitation. Never turn your back on your mom for your man. Period.

@marie_xo, Exactly what if he said he wanted his mom there, would all theres girls say, respect his wishes? is it just whatever he wants? I dont get it.

Probably, some women like being controlled! I definitly am not that type of woman. Some things i can understand compromising, but just letting her come to the ultrasound of her grandbaby? No compromise there. Thats a moment that will never be redone, and to look back and think you didnt let her come because your man said no, you would probably feel stupid. @elamsmommy

Totally agree! @marie_xo