I can't wait to start parent infant bonding. Have no connection with bump at all and I feel rubbish…

I feel exactly the same, it's something you feel ashamed to admit but I just feel like right now there's nothing there? it'll be completely different once they're here I know it but I honestly understand exactly how you're feeling x

I'm glad someone does! I try so hard to be excited and positive and it's draining. I lay awake most nights crying. I spoke to the midwife and she referred me on. I have an overwhelming feeling I won't love her when she's born and I'm terrified being on my own even though I have my family's support. Never in a million years thought I would feel like this. Always avoid talking about my pregnancy and stuff. I don't think being ill with it has helped. If you ever need a chat I'm here. x @bethanyjade

I didnt feel that bond till weeks after he was born...i even cried because i felt like i didnt love him enough but i guess i was just still in shock and adapting to motherhood. Dont worry hun it will come!xx

Awe hun! I felt like this...it isn't uncommon! Don't feel bad about it at all! My girly is here now and the bond we have is amazing! I love her so much :) the way she looks at me and knows that I am her mummy..melts my heart! So don't worry at all! xxx

thank you! @kendricksmommy @winterbaby95 trying to stay positive! xxx

@christina21, I got attach with my baby when we had our 4d scan.. I wasn't thinking too much bout it b4 den and literally pregnancy did not hit me till den .. after seeing buba we both felt warmth in our heart and bonded really well. On this basis, I will defo agree with other as well, once baby is here u will be fine 😊

I am so glad its not just me xx I try to talk to my husband and even mum and best friend and they just think I am being stupid xx the problem I have is I was told I couldn't have children and this broke my heart its all I ever wanted xx so I had a break down went for counseling and eventually I had convinced myself I didn't want children anyway. then go April last year I was rushed to hospital and was told I had a miscarriage and it then became a challenge to get pregnant rather that it being to have a baby so when I took a test which I expected be negative I was in shock and then I feel I have just been living to the next scan etc and the milestones. we couple of 4d scans which has left me in shock but I dont feel anything and it concerns me. but I am a bit of a control freak and honestly there is not anything I haven't got for him xx I have even got clothes right up to 12-18 months xx nappies... everything and my mum says you are so organised... but buying stuff reminds me I am pregnant... I look in the mirror and keep saying it and seeing my belly moving is surreal but I am worried that I wont bond xx I am even doing a memory book for him I am really enjoying that xx he is one spoilt little man xx cant believe I am 31 weeks I never expected get past 12 xx sorry for the length of this lot xx

My story is very similar to yours @cheryltomkinson1985 I was told I couldn't have children so I kind of turned off the maternal switch to cope with it. When I got pregnant I didn't want to get too happy in case something happened and took a really long time to accept I was going to have a baby. Its taken my partner even longer! xx

just glad I am not alone in feeling like that xx I have zero experience of babies but no husband has children so I am hoping it will come back to him @lou xx lol.... hoping haha xx

I'm sure we will be okay ladies. I was told it would be difficult to conceive and in relationships I'd tried. The week I went off the rails getting drunk and partying one night stands and it happened. I always wanted children and I know I can be a mum. I just feel broken and lost. If your really struggling I would speak to the midwife. I've seen a support midwife and having several referrals for long term help. I'm sure we will be perfectly fine girls! @cheryltomkinson1985 @lou @sairainbow xxx

@christina21, @cheryltomkinson1985 It's been a lot better in the last two weeks so hopefully it will get better for you ladies too :) I'm sure once they are born we will completely fall in love

same here xx just so surreal like a dream come true xx

@lou, @cheryltomkinson1985 @christina21 ... 4 mc .. includes one ectopic, right tube removed, left ovary stucked with bowel + 2 big time failed IVF cycle been told would never conceive on my own otherwise will end up in another ectopic and always need medical assistance... @lou also my hub took long time to accept the fact that we are having baby for real with all the traumas we've been thru in the past. Only ppl who struggled can understand what is like..Just be easy on yourself and dont take other ppl opinion strongly, I am a strong blver in miracle and one of the miracle we are having inside us. Bless and happy n healthy more babies in future XxX

thank you @sairainbow thats beautiful xx

Thats lovely @sairainbow :) x