How is it fair that when I'm upset with him my husband gets upset with me? As if I'm the one that…

How is it fair that when I'm upset with him my husband gets upset with me? As if I'm the one that hurt his feelings? If I had done so I would've apologized right then because that's how I am. I tried to get him to understand how I felt and when he had nothing to say I came upstairs to lay in bed because I got fed up. I don't want to explain my feelings anymore. I'm over it. We have the same argument (won't explain it here) multiple times in a year and I'm just tired of repeating myself.