I'm freaking out for no reason. questioning if my boyfriend is my soulmate. if I got pregnant too…

I don't see me and mine working out!

It is not the end of the world if you and your boyfriend don't work out. My baby's father actually turned out to be extremely terrible to me and isn't going to be around for our son. But my boyfriend (best friend for six years, not my baby's biological father) is going to be a better daddy to my son than my ex could have ever dreamed to be... I didn't expect it to work out this way, but there is still hope even if you two don't work out. I'm so much happier.

@babymay2016, thank you for the constructive help. women dream of having the courage that you have. you are an inspiration. @newmommy2be91 how come if you dont mind me asking

Omg wow, thank you. Nobody has ever told me that before...

Well he has some bad habits that I'm not with and you would think with 2 other kids he would put that aside! and right now it's looking like he doesn't want to stop and each day I'm becoming less attracted to him. I don't need the extra company if he's not willing to change and he just wants to hang around. I need a man that's not gonna be selfish. so if he doesn't change now how is gonna change in a few weeks when the baby is here?! and I'm actually talking about him smoking weed. to each is own. I've been there and smoked but I'm not about that anymore. it's a waste of money and somehow he never has it but can spend money on that. it really pisses me off! @ashley145

@babymay2016, women don't realize how hard it is to leave a man you once thought you loved. it's even harder to leave a man you love to go to a better life for you and your baby. it's hard. I mean almost impossible hard. it's amazing to see women pick up their kid and start a whole new life not knowing where they are going but only knowing they have their strong soul and their child. I'm very proud of you for what you have accomplished and even better, you are finally happy. Thank you for being the 1% to show the rest that happiness is possible.

@newmommy2be91, I completely understand. my boyfriend and I agreed that it was fun when we were younger but It was time to grow up and realize it's not about weed or alcohol. it's about our family. partying just doesn't seem fun anymore. Maybe after we have our son and we need an adult day we will take him to his grandmas and have an adult day every once in a while but not very often. certainly not as much as we used to and certainly not with the people we used to. our adult outlook has changed a lot.

It is really really really hard... but I would do anything to give my son a good life, and his real dad just didn't want to be that person. You can't change people, you can only change yourself. You deserve to be happy too, and if that isn't with your baby's father, that is okay too. Either way YOU deserve a much happiness. Don't forget that. Yes we are mommies now, but we still deserve to have happiness too. Even more so!

I meant to say you deserve SO much happiness 😄