So my mother, whom I don't have a really good relationship with constantly chain smokes around me and it really bothers me. When I'm there I feel like I can hardly breathe! She expects to take over when my son is born and have him 24/7 which I don't even feel comfortable having her babysit alone for an hour tbh. How do I discuss this with her without her hating me? Is it possible at all?! My only and main concern is my son but at the same time I don't want the stress of this relationship with my mother either. Help?!