*Warning: TMI POST: Read at your own indiscretion

*Warning: TMI POST: Read at your own indiscretion

I'm so glad I've felt no sexual desires since having my girl...I'm so self conscious now. Not with my stretch marks or mommy tummy now, no, but with how my lady bits now look. It just looks so odd now since I healed. I have a hard section of scar tissue that is now my perineum that is very small compared to how it used to be and I pretty much have no labia anymore. My lady hole starts a centimeter or so under my urethra and extends pretty much the rest of the way back, so it is a literal hole now that is open to the world... It no longer stretches, it hurts sometimes to sit or lean back, etc. I tried sex once since, even though I wasn't in the mood, and it hurt. How can I get over the self consciousness it's now brought me and how can I ease any discomfort from the scar tissues? My OBGYN says it looks fine and normal for how bad my tearing was...but I don't see how it looks normal or fine. Have any other moms dealt with having their vagina go from a normal looking vagina to looking like a gaping hole? 😳