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Karla
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Мама сына (8 лет)

my husband has been part of my sons life since he's been 3 when he was 5 his biological father left him (long story)…

my husband has been part of my sons life since he's been 3 when he was 5 his biological father left him (long story) once he learned how to move on and cope with his biological father leaving he got closer to my husband calls him dad now all that happened on its own and this year we'll be finalizing adoption... i am pregnant with my husbands child and I don't know why I get this fear that he won't love them both the same and his never given me a reason to think that I don't know maybe i am going crazy, hormones, who knows but it's an unexplainable fear... advice?

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mellie777

callieМама двоих (1 год, 7 лет), ждёт третьего

well he has two and they both have diffrent mom's one is in the kids life other is not and I feel same way about them both ..it's not that I don't love and care for them I just don't love them like my own @berberbee2016

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jazzyjazz

JazzminМама сына (1 год), беременна (25 нед.)

My mom married my step dad when I was 3...I never met my dad ..my mom had my brother when I was 10..in my experience I feel that the love is different..he loves me but it's not the same...and I think of is have a step kid I would love it but not like my own flesh and blood...everyone is different though ur husband sounds like a really good man..my mom always supplied with me with everything she was mom and dad for me ..I never called my step father "dad" because I never felt a fatherly love...but your son calls him dad so that says a lot about your husband :)

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berberbee2016

KarlaМама сына (8 лет)

@mellie777, is that because maybe his mom is in the picture? or are you raising him with no mom in the picture and still feel that way?

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mellie777

callieМама двоих (1 год, 7 лет), ждёт третьего

just my personal opinion but I am a step mom to my boyfriends son and have a son of my own and now am pregnant by my boyfriend and I will honestly say I don't feel the same about my step kid as my own ..I mean I love n care for him but not like I love my own !

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kat616

KatВ ожидании первенца

It sounds like your husband is a good man, and seems to me like he'll love both very much. It seems like that's what good men do.

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twinmommy523

BriannaВ ожидании первенца

I am a step child to my father. However he treats me just as if I was his own. He even tells my mom he feel in love with me first. Don't stress about it. It will be just fine. If he is stepping up to be a father to your son he will be there no matter what. It will be exciting for him to have his "own" child but your son will be just as much his as the other in the end.

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your…

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