no unless your very unfit, homeless etc I have three kids and no job but I'm in school full time as long as you have help with them like your mom or dad helping with dialers and little stuff your good I worry about that to but I left him years ago,may I ask why you don't find work? just so he doesn't use it against you? and that's what state help is for so he can threaten you all he wants but state can help you financially foodstamps monthly income etc,