my daughter is 6 we went to court when she was a month old. i requested the lowest amount because i thought her dad was going to be in her life. Her birthday is this weekend he has not been in her life since she was 1 and he has never paid a dime to child support. Am i upset no but i also make 20 bucks an hour and have a damn good family who helps me threw my struggles. He can take his 100 bucks a month and ill keep my babygirl.
I'm glad you guys agree some people are trying to make me feel bad for wanting it but he isn't ever around that's the least he could do @momma_2_batbaby @mimiz @brand_3
I personally think there's nothing wrong with child support of course there's some people that don't use it on their kids like their suppose to butt... It takes 2 to make a baby not 1! & if you can't on your own that extra money is a lot of help @makdenb
there are many factors, like if you state says if he pays he get to see the baby, it all depends on you and him. Like if he is "toxic" to you and you baby (example like violent, verbally or mentally or physically abusive) I'd have to think about if the money is worth it. But if he isn't a bad guy, you guys just didn't work but he can be a good dad and you want your baby to know him then that is something you need to consider. If he is, then I'd talk to him and see what he thinks. If your able to do that. If that makes sense
we have 50-50 I still pay him 700 a month to keep him off my back. but, since he doesn't want to take it and behave, it's getting taken in april. it was to help because when my son is with him he is in daycare and he pays for his insurance, but in reality, I have him for the same amount of time. I am fortunate to not have to work, so I don't have to put my son in daycare. if he has a problem paying for his insurance, he'll go on mine. he lives in his parents basement making 60k a year. my sin is just supplemental income to him
I do however find it absolutely wrong for a woman to hold their child from him for no real reason then beg for childsupport the. I see her bitch ass at the bar with a diff guy in an expensive outfit... I don't like that
I have a 2 year old little girl with a guy that has seen her a hand full of times. She doesn't know who he is. But my current boyfriend bust his ass off for her and buys her everything she needs because I'm pregnant and now I can't. I do believe in child support because there's things my daughter wants and needs and we don't have it. If you can lay down and make a baby you can stand up and be a man and raise that baby.
At the end of the day it's the child's right to be supported by both parents! Period. Even if you don't need the money to help support the child put it away.. Save it.... Don't say you don't need it you got this and can do it on your own then when it's time for the kid to go to college you tell them they have to take out loans and work to pay for it. Think about it 3,000 a year for 20 years is 60,000..... That's less than what most people owe to Sallie Mae for college!
In fact I think it irresponsible to allow a man to get off Scott free and not help take care of his child especially when in reality CS is nothing but a benefit for the child. Why would anyone want to take money out of their child's pocket! If he's not acting right and doing what he's supposed to do financially and physically take that ass to court! Lol
Also CS court is not the same as family court. They do not determine visitation UNLESS the father requests it and even then they will tell you to get second court date to go to family court to determine about visitation. Visitation and support only fall into play together in the same court normally when the parents are going though divorce. I'll fight for anything that will benefit my child! Point blank period.
I think it depends. If you don't let the father of your child visit with his children and there's no reason except you're mad cause he won't be with you then no why the hell are you making him pay for children he can't see... If he works buys diapers, spends times with them then no he shouldn't pay... But if he's a dead beat refuses to help or spend time with the children hell yea pay up
Jasmine·
Мама подростка
if you have a child then you best support it
Mimi·
If he helped make the baby why not help support especially if you can't in your own
Brandy·
Мама двоих (9 лет, 13 лет), ждёт третьего
Right! you both make the baby so you both should support the baby!
texas·
Мама подростков
my daughter is 6 we went to court when she was a month old. i requested the lowest amount because i thought her dad was going to be in her life. Her birthday is this weekend he has not been in her life since she was 1 and he has never paid a dime to child support. Am i upset no but i also make 20 bucks an hour and have a damn good family who helps me threw my struggles. He can take his 100 bucks a month and ill keep my babygirl.
Kenzie·
I'm glad you guys agree some people are trying to make me feel bad for wanting it but he isn't ever around that's the least he could do @momma_2_batbaby @mimiz @brand_3
Stephanie·
Мама двоих (3 года, 4 года), ждёт третьего
I personally think there's nothing wrong with child support of course there's some people that don't use it on their kids like their suppose to butt... It takes 2 to make a baby not 1! & if you can't on your own that extra money is a lot of help @makdenb
twinmamma2015·
Мама двоих (младенец)
there are many factors, like if you state says if he pays he get to see the baby, it all depends on you and him. Like if he is "toxic" to you and you baby (example like violent, verbally or mentally or physically abusive) I'd have to think about if the money is worth it. But if he isn't a bad guy, you guys just didn't work but he can be a good dad and you want your baby to know him then that is something you need to consider. If he is, then I'd talk to him and see what he thinks. If your able to do that. If that makes sense
Kenzie·
Yeah you're totally right I'm gonna have to think about that one. @twinmamma2015
Emily·
Мама подростков
we have 50-50 I still pay him 700 a month to keep him off my back. but, since he doesn't want to take it and behave, it's getting taken in april. it was to help because when my son is with him he is in daycare and he pays for his insurance, but in reality, I have him for the same amount of time. I am fortunate to not have to work, so I don't have to put my son in daycare. if he has a problem paying for his insurance, he'll go on mine. he lives in his parents basement making 60k a year. my sin is just supplemental income to him
Jasmine·
Мама подростка
I do however find it absolutely wrong for a woman to hold their child from him for no real reason then beg for childsupport the. I see her bitch ass at the bar with a diff guy in an expensive outfit... I don't like that
Kate Lyn·
Мама дочки (2 года)
I have a 2 year old little girl with a guy that has seen her a hand full of times. She doesn't know who he is. But my current boyfriend bust his ass off for her and buys her everything she needs because I'm pregnant and now I can't. I do believe in child support because there's things my daughter wants and needs and we don't have it. If you can lay down and make a baby you can stand up and be a man and raise that baby.
Kenzie·
Why did you choose 50/50? @emily18234
Jess 🕊·
At the end of the day it's the child's right to be supported by both parents! Period. Even if you don't need the money to help support the child put it away.. Save it.... Don't say you don't need it you got this and can do it on your own then when it's time for the kid to go to college you tell them they have to take out loans and work to pay for it. Think about it 3,000 a year for 20 years is 60,000..... That's less than what most people owe to Sallie Mae for college!
Jess 🕊·
In fact I think it irresponsible to allow a man to get off Scott free and not help take care of his child especially when in reality CS is nothing but a benefit for the child. Why would anyone want to take money out of their child's pocket! If he's not acting right and doing what he's supposed to do financially and physically take that ass to court! Lol
Jess 🕊·
Also CS court is not the same as family court. They do not determine visitation UNLESS the father requests it and even then they will tell you to get second court date to go to family court to determine about visitation. Visitation and support only fall into play together in the same court normally when the parents are going though divorce. I'll fight for anything that will benefit my child! Point blank period.
Nykyta·
I think it depends. If you don't let the father of your child visit with his children and there's no reason except you're mad cause he won't be with you then no why the hell are you making him pay for children he can't see... If he works buys diapers, spends times with them then no he shouldn't pay... But if he's a dead beat refuses to help or spend time with the children hell yea pay up