I told my boyfriend yesterday that I think I might want to break up. We've been together for almost…

If you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to message me. we're in a situation VERY similar and it's hard. So unsure of what I want to do as well:/

hunny. my best advice to you as someone who's tried to control someone so they'd better their life is... call it quits. if you can't love him for how he is then talk about how you two can coparent effectively. you can't change anyone unless they're ready to change. I wasted almost a year trying to get my ex off of the drugs and alcohol and get his head straight and I tried for a total of 2 years because one of them we were just friends. it is now 2016, 3 years later and he's still doing all that dumb shit because he isn't ready for a life change and probably never will be. it really is rough. or maybe don't call it quits maybe just take time to yourself and talk to a counselor to see if they can give you professional advice on how to not control someone.

I appreciate it sweetie, the same goes for you! @jessgtz92 and @momma_2_batbaby When we got together he was spending all day getting high and drinking every night. He had a rotation of women hed sleep with, his ex gf was pregnant, and he had just quit his job. he lived off of me for 6 months without a job before I kicked him out. he is a felon and is on probation but refuses to contact his probation officer or pay his fines. he only "stopped" smoking weed (i.e just started lying to me about it) because I put my foot down that I wouldn't have it in my house- and then I caught him getting high in my bathroom when he was supposed to be baby sitting my son while I worked. he thinks it's ok to be friends with girls he has slept with in the past that tell him they miss him and I'm supposed to be comfortable with it just because I'm supposed to trust him. he's always grumpy and I seriously feel like the only reason why he even bothers trying to be around me on our days off is in the hopes he will get some- he will even randomly try to apologize in the middle of a huge argument with some shit about how "can we salvage this so I can make love to my gf." and it just infuriates me. he's been out of my house since September (for a second time- I let him move back in for 5 months and he remained unemployed.) and he had two jobs knowing the stuff we needed for the baby and that we needed to save for a place together and he didn't start trying to save until last month. I'm due in 8 weeks. I bought everything for our baby myself with no help from him. I tell him less than two days ago that I need to reevaluate what this relationship means to me and he promptly gets fired from his 2nd job. I'm just exhausted of trying to make him be an adult. mind you he has a three year old and a one year old that he hasn't improved himself for. and I have a five year old. the more I think about it, the less I want my son looking up to him...Sorry for the long post..

oh god no that sounds like my ex to a T! fuck that you've been doing it alone he will NEVER EVER change! my ex told me all I do is give up because we found out I was pregnant and told him I'd be choosing open adoption if he didn't quit his ways, he then told me $60 is pocket change which it isn't at all!

the most irritating part is that he doesn't have his own place, a car, anything. he literally pays no overhead, so where did all his money go? I'm always afraid that he's doing drugs behind my back. especially when he claims his ex gf keeps trying to get pills off of him or randomly tries to get clean and wants to off her stash to him. I just don't trust him. That's never been the type of person I am and I feel like I'm lowering my standards

I just don't want to keep going down this road with a newborn baby to stress over too, ya know? I'm a single mom to my five year old. his dad gets him maybe every other weekend if he tries hard enough and doesn't pay me a dime. I work 40 hours a week as a server, I don't have a college education and would like to pursue one. But I don't ever see that happening with him. I seriously feel like he holds me back. I could never even have him on a lease anywhere if I wanted to because 1. he's a felon within 10 years and 2. he has two evictions on his record. I don't have everything set up for me, that's for sure, but I'm also doing pretty steady and making the best of what I have and every time he comes back into my life I feel like it's all at risk of being destroyed...@momma_2_batbaby,

hun its gonna be hard but you need to fucking run!

I guess the worst part is I know that I've bettered his life and I feel bad for just throwing him back to the wolves. I know this will toss him back into depression and he will just give up on everything. but he's 23 years old and has two kids with one on the way. if anything that should be enough motivation for him to push forward and make the best of himself and prove not only me, but everyone else wrong. @momma_2_batbaby

We have a lot in common, wish I had the strength you did. If you ever need to talk, message me!