so last weekend my fiance was going overboard acting like a drill sergeant to my kids, so I told him…

so last weekend my fiance was going overboard acting like a drill sergeant to my kids, so I told him I don't want him doing the discipline until he can get back to being their friend (they already have a dad they don't need a drill instructor too) they need a friend in him. a positive role model. but anyways. all week, he works so there wasn't any problems but he's still butthurt about it.

then, since I'm a stay at home mom right now, my boys step mom (who recently split up with their dad) was having problems with the daycare for her daughter (my kids half sister) so I volunteered to watch the little princess (shes almost 2) until she can get her into a new daycare. Im going to be getting paid to babysit and it gives my kids time with their sister before and after school. well my fiance through a fit about it (because I didn't get his permission) and got all pissy in front of my parents (about no one caring what he wants or what he has to say) who got really mad about it (he was shrugging them off and ignoring everyone and playing on his phone, very rude to them in their house). when I asked him to stop being unsocial and to participate in the activities (we were there to visit, not to fight) he got upset and went for a walk, was gone for a few hours then came back and didn't even apologize to my parents, just made a plate of food and watched the game and played on his phone. idk what to do anymore. I feel like I don't want anything to do with him and his little fits. he needs counseling to help him manage his stress, ptsd and anxiety and depression but he won't let go of his pride and me and my family get to suffer for it. blah. (did i mention he finds something to get pissy about every time we go out to family functions-my parents have been so patient with him and last night my step mom snapped. She's tired of catering to him and walking on eggshells.) sorry mamas. had to vent. any advice?