need opinions and please dont be to harsh. Is it bad that im almost 17 and I am planning to have a baby and then get married when im 18?
I think you should have everything in order before bringing another human being in to the world. Your young and have plenty of time to do that. Live life first, bc when they get here. Yoi wont always be able to depend on someone to watch them and etc. It's your life but at the end of the day
I say enjoy it while you can without the extra responsibility.
@bentley_mommy, yeah I totally get it. we are working hard on getting everything ready to move on in life together like with the house and hes gonna get a better job and such. seems like you are doing great!! good luck with everything!! and @double_mommy thank you very much wish you the best to!!
that's awesome. enjoy the rest if your senior year and I wish you two the very best!!!
Not a problem. :) I just don't want you to have to struggle in life. You know? I don't think really your truly prepared at any age no matter how young or old but it's best to try and be as prepared as you possibly can be. It's been a crazy 9 months for me and things have finally started to look up for my fiance and I. He's getting a better job in march and we're getting our own place and I have money set aside for the first time in God knows how long for him to get a vehicle so we're not having to share mine because as soon as I have her I'll be working part time a few days a week. I haven't worked in 9 months and I'm about to go bat shit crazy. Lol @alipaige99
@bentley_mommy, thank you for all the advice I will defiantly keep thinking on it! we have a few more months to keep deciding and figuring it all out. and yes @double_mommy me and him both graduate this year.
They said it takes 3 years to fully know if you can handle living and being with someone. I don't know how long you've been with your SO but if your positive I say do what makes you happy girl. :) I understand the wanting to have children early. I am glad to be having my daughter now but wished I was just a few years older but that's just me. I tried to grow up so fast and I am not playing catch up. I finished college just barely so when I have my daughter i will have a promising career. I agree with what @double_mommy has to say as well. Just really think out all your options. Being a mother isn't easy by any means and babies are super expensive I never truly understood until I got pregnant. I'm due in a few weeks and between my fiance and help from family we have spent close to $4,000.00. I know it sounds hard to believe but we have. She's spoiled already! @alipaige99
@double_mommy, thank you we have thought and thought on it for a couple months now but we arent gonna try until around april or may
its your life and if you guys think you're ready then go for it! I would take some time to think more about it. ask yourself how hard are your goals to reach with and without a baby, ask where you'll be in 5 years with and without a baby, where your relationship is going in the next few years. your answers determine your choice. 21 here and my bf and I barely fought before pregnancy and now he makes me cry all the time. just think it out thoroughly first
@bentley_mommy, I totally understand. my point on it is I know I want kids but I dont wanna be like 35 have my first kid and then decide I want a bunch and be to old to have as many as I want. I already know for sure im getting married at 18 so I just think why wait?
@adriennelea, we already have a house just needs some minor issues fixed and we arent gonna go crazy on buying tons and tons of stuff the baby wont need and baby showers give lots of stuff to.
I believe it's your life do what makes you happy. I will be 21 in June and I've been married/divorced and I'm getting married again but not for a few more years. I was in a hurry to grow up and I wished I had waited. I'm not trying to tell you what to do by any means but if your able to wait a tad longer I would just from experience. @alipaige99
that's ok then enough for an apartment & if he saves what he has left over on baby stuff that's good @alipaige99
@marskhaos, we are gonna start saving he dont have the most wonderful job right now but he gets $600 a paycheck and im bout to start work but he will have a better job after this may!
thanks! I know its not gonna be the easiest but me and my fiance have thought it all through!
Not if youve really thought it out, have started saving and making adult decisions :)
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first went through my whole degree pregnant and with a new born it was hard not getting the rest I needed before he got here and falling asleep in class from being up with a screaming baby all night but I did it just think that if it's what you want you have to work hard for it you can still have a life with a baby here I am owning my own business with a 4 year old on the way anything is possible when you put your mind to it a lot of people said I couldn't do it but I worked even harder to prove them wrong you do what makes you happy