so I read this blog called baby sideburns (so good and funny) I had to share this one post...I bottle feed because no…
so I read this blog called baby sideburns (so good and funny) I had to share this one post...I bottle feed because no matter what I did I didn't produce enough milk. anyways go check out her blog and her books (also a very funny read) babysideburns.com
Dear lady who’s bottle-feeding her newborn in Starbucks right now,
Yeah, I saw that. That group of women in the chairs who just gave you a disapproving look when you whipped out the bottle. Now mayyybe they just don’t approve of the donut you’re eating. Or maybe they don’t like your outfit. But I’m pretty sure they were looking down on you because you aren’t breastfeeding. And I’m really hoping you didn’t notice. But just in case you did, I wanted to make sure you know that there is at least ONE mother in here who is not judging you for bottle-feeding. Because this is what I know:
1. Breastfeeding doesn’t always work out for everyone. Sometimes our bodies suck and don’t cooperate. Like my baby didn’t come out of my vajayjay. Was it my fault? No. And maybe your boobies just weren’t in the mood to be vending machines.
2. How about this? It’s entirely possible you adopted that adorable little baby and your udders aren’t full of milk. Duh.
3. Maybe you are getting ready to go back to work and you need your little guy to be okay with bottle-feeding so he doesn’t refuse it all the time and starve to death while you’re earning money to take care of him.
4. Maybe your newbie is like mine was, and keeps losing weight no matter how much you breastfeed him, and the doctor says the best thing you can do for his health is supplement the breastfeeding with formula. And I don’t know about you, but if I was giving my baby the breast sometimes and the bottle other times, call me crazy, but I’d probably choose the bottle when I’m sitting in the middle of Starbucks.
5. Maybe there’s a different reason you’ve decided not to breastfeed. And maybe it’s a really good reason that I don’t know about. And maybe it’s none of my F’ing business because it’s not my kid.
6. Maybe having a baby and waking up all hours of the night and changing diapers twelve times a day and dealing with postpartum depression AND trying to breastfeed at the same time was too much for you and you were constantly a crying mess. So maybe you are actually a BETTER mom for choosing not to breastfeed.
Anyways, I can tell by the way you’re looking into your little guy’s eyes and talking to him that you are utterly madly completely in love with him and that you would do anything for him, so I’m pretty damn sure you’ve made the best choice for both of you. That’s all I gotta really say. Welcome to the Mommy wars where some people give dirty looks and some people give silent support from across the coffee shop.
Sincerely,
Another mom who’s judging you and thinks you’re awesome
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mommyslittleman·
She forgot to mention that maybe it's pumped breast milk because baby couldn't latch properly and you work your butt off to pump for your little one every day, like in my case.
mommyslittleman·
Several times a day*
Amy·
Мама дочки-младенца
I just hate the looks...you get looked at funny for breastfeeding in public but also if you bottle feed...there are so many reasons some women bottle feed. @mommyslittleman pumping is not easy...I think it's more difficult then just breastfeeding...I tried pumping to get my supply up and I felt like I was always pumping and never did anything else. I give you a lot of credit for keeping up with it😊
Quinn·
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Thank you for posting this. I have an autoimmune disease that makes me weak and my lo was born with a baby version, thank heavens it was temporary for her, but she couldn't latch or suck well because of it and because of that we couldn't breastfeed so for three weeks I pumped religiously. I ended up having to choose between pumping and being able to take care of her physically due to my disease, I chose the latter, and it killed me because pumping was pushed on me so hard and I wanted to do the best for my lovely. I had all of these plans to pump and to store but now we take it one day at a time and being able to pick up my baby and hold her on my own is more rewarding than anything.
I cried reading the post. It could be lack of sleep. Becoming a mommy you realize how judgmental people around you can be and every decision feels wrong but we are all just doing our best!
Amy·
Мама дочки-младенца
@craftycroft thank you for sharing. the most important thing a parent can do is love our babies...it shouldn't matter how we parent, we are all very different people, as love as our babies are loved, happy, and healthy. for me, about a month into trying to breastfeed, my supply was getting lower and lower and I tried everything. but I was starting to get depressed, I would cry along with my daughter. I felt so guilty doing formula but just days later we both started to feel better and happier. and I realized it was the best choice for us. she's 10 months old now and so healthy and very happy...I must be doing something right. oh and it looks like our daughters havre the same name😊 you should read the blog, it shows us that no parent is perfect plus I find myself laughing at all her stories lol.