Okay so my child's father thinks there is going to be joint placement but he doesn't even live in…

okay so first save all receipts of what you have bought for your baby don't throw anything away take him To court they will see that he hasn't contributed anything band they'll grant you full custody or place a visiting schudule so he can see her

@princess_intheoven16, but he doesn't even live in Texas. he lives in Wisconsin. and honestly idk if he will even be around for the birth to sign the birth certificate.

exactly what @princess_intheoven16 said also keep notes of anything he says and always word things carefully when you talk to him. I have a not book, I let the boys "dad" talk and I make notes of everything he says, I keep all my receipts in a binder and see what the laws are in your state

look into what your state says, in my state they say if the father isn't physically present he can't be put on the birth certificate also in my state all that does is establish a relationship with the baby.

@twinmamma2015, I keep every text message. and he does as well.

there is no way he will get joint custody not living in the same state. I'd look up state laws but in Michigan they don't even allow overnights before a year, unless breastfeeding then its extended. most the time the mom will have primary custody with father getting holidays and a couple weeks during the summer but it depends on your state laws and the age of the child

so think very carefully before you reply back, I take my time to think of what to text back so it doesn't screw me over. and I never talk on the phone with him, I only text cuz then it's in writing. I also look to see if he posts anything on Facebook. But definitely look into your laws. see what's on your side

@twinmamma2015, yeah I have been doing that before I would just blow up on him. and I most definitely will look into the laws here

definitely helps knowing them. like here in Tennessee I automatically have 100% sole custody, I don't have to let him see the boys not until a judge orders me to. So I set up rules and stuff for his visitation, like my house for 2 hrs (which he doesn't even stay that long and no call no shows a lot) if he doesn't like it then that's his problem. if he takes me.to court it's a long process. it's DNA then child support then he can apply for visitation and with my documentation he won't get, or at least it would be supervised and he has to pay for it and he doesn't make much. And he would be behind on child support cuz in Tennessee it goes from the day they're born and buying a box a diapers twice a month doesn't count mean anything to the courts. so as of right now he's $2,560 behind on support if not more. But knowing all this helps me be firm in my decision making. if that makes sense

@twinmamma2015, oh wow. I hope my state laws are similar. I don't care for child support because that's something he will brag about and saying that's how he supports her.

oh same here, I don't want anything from him. like he uses my boys like a trophy, like "oh look at me I support twins, I have twins" he never sees them yet went and got their names tattooed on him (it's a really bad tattoo at that, like everyone I know laughed it's that bad ) but he has their names on him so he can be like "oh these are my twins names" it's like naw dum-dum you barely see them when I allow you and you don't do anything for them. they pull away when he trys to kiss them bye lol 5 months old and already know! lol!

he also gets his information from a friend who studied family law at a community college in California back in 1997, she drives buses out here and has him thinking he has 50/50 rights and custody. I'm playing dumb about it and about everything he says n does cuz he just digs himself as deeper hole lol. but if you laws are on your side if you file in Texas rather him filing in Wisconsin then I'd file even though yoy don't want anything, you wanna make sure you get the better deal (again if that makes sense)

@twinmamma2015, dang sounds like are children's father are brothers I swear lol. he like to act like he knows everything as well.. but I totally get what you are saying.. thank you soo much (((: this mommy is gonna get a lawyer for sure!

lol they just might be lol! good for you mama! take care of that beautiful baby! do what's best for you two!!!