why is it that husbands know what buttons to push and how to push them? I have been with my husband…

why is it that husbands know what buttons to push and how to push them? I have been with my husband now for 10 yrs been married for 3 months. when ever he wants to get up and leave he is able to but when it comes to me going for a walk or hanging with my friends or family I have to pack up three kids to come along with me. I just don't understand why it is so different for men to do things