I need to rant a little bit ladies, and I'm sorry for that, I don't want to vent to my mom and I…

I need to rant a little bit ladies, and I'm sorry for that, I don't want to vent to my mom and I really don't have too many friends I can vent to about this.... I am a stay at home mom to my 2 beautiful children: Easton is 2 and Emory is almost 4 months.... today we were coming home from celebrating Christmas with some family we hadn't been able to celebrate with before and also we went to Menards and bought some stuff to organize our house... as we were crossing the railroad tracks to get to our road, I noticed and commented on a person who is always sitting there watching the trains... my husband (he owns a heating and cooling business) told me they put a furnace and air in for this guy and his house is really disgusting, toilet looked like it hadn't been flushed in weeks, dishes piled up with flies and gnats flying around etc.... he then says "I'm ashamed of our house a lot but that was just horrible".... now I do my best to keep the house clean with tending to a toddler and an exclusively breastfed infant, but that felt like a slap in the face to me... needless to say when we got home I started cleaning and doing laundry (not that anyone has a lot to do as I just finished it all a couple days ago).... he tells me not to kill myself doing it but then says something like that.... and he wonders why I feel like nothing I do is good enough; I have supper done or almost done when he walks in the door every night, I clean everyday, I even wait to wash my own laundry until everyone else's is done, there are also times I only get a shower every 3-4 days (I have naturally dry skin and eczema so showering everyday is a no no for me).... am I wrong for feeling like the wind has been let out of my sails, so to speak? I almost felt like I had been hit with a ton of bricks.... sorry this is so long, I just needed to get it off my chest is all