The way I see it, if SO or baby's father is toxic to you then they will most likely be toxic to your…
The way I see it, if SO or baby's father is toxic to you then they will most likely be toxic to your children. If they abuse you verbally, mentally, emotionally, physically or all of the above then why would they treat the child any different. I will say yes, some men do step up and change and recognize that they have a problem. But for the one's who see no wrong in what they do, they will never change and I feel like they aren't deserving of the opportunity to raise a child. Someone in a position of being a parent should be stable mentally and physically. Otherwise I feel like it will definitely affect the child, and that is unfair to expose them to that.
Mimi·
If they haven't stepped up I don't think having a baby will help them either some men just don't care and honestly when my husband and I first met he lived a different lifestyle and even his mom that doesn't live here noticed a change... I didn't make him either he did it on his own all I did was advise. He's grown you know
babyjjsmommy·
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Exactly, a man has to want to change on his own. A woman can't make him, and a child can't make him either. That's awesome that he decided to do it on his own, that shows a lot. Unfortunately my child's father is one of those that will never change and it honestly just disgusts me. That's why I left him in the beginning because why wait around for things to get worse? He's not even allowed in our lives anymore, won't be on the birth certificate or anything. It's definitely in my baby's best interest and that's the only thing I'm concerned with. @mimiz
Mimi·
I'm so proud of you! That makes you an amazing mom right away you chose your baby I can't stand when women stick around because they don't want to be alone not knowing that being with someone like that means you're alone anyway! They will not by any means change if they don't want to
babyjjsmommy·
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Thankyou! And that's exactly right, because if they have no motivation to do better in life at nearly 30 years old I don't think they ever will. I'd much rather it just be me and my sweet baby boy, we've got a huge support system and I know one day God will send someone when the time is right and When I am ready for that. But right now I am glad I can just focus all of my attention on my son when he gets here 😊😊
babyjjsmommy·
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@mimiz,
Mimi·
Yess!! I love the way you think it's awesome and you're going to do great!!
babyjjsmommy·
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Thanks girl, I can't wait! @mimiz
Tara·
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Well said! And their toxicity affects the mom too which in turn affects little ones that way too.