Ok. I need advice. My fiance has an 8 year old with his ex. I love that he sends her money every…
Ok. I need advice.
My fiance has an 8 year old with his ex. I love that he sends her money every payday, and that he goes and sees her for her birthday every year. Now, here is my issue. He isn't making a ton right now, and I'm not working because of this town being seasonal and no one is hiring. We need to get a car, we need stuff for our house, We need stuff for my 4 year old. Rather then making sure we have what is needed he ONLY worries about getting that money to HIS daughter. He made me feel terrible about spending money on much needed maternity clothing, and my daughter's birthday. He claimed I, on my own, spent all of the extra money we had. He said I need to not need as much because he HAS to send it to his daughter. I feel like he is more all about his daughter and ex then he is about his new family the HE chose to have. Am I being selfish? Do I ignore it? I've tried talking to him but he's stopped talking to me. Am I being too selfish with wanting him to focus on us (I do not want him to forget or ignore his daughter, not at all) rather then only on his daughter? What can I do?? HELP!!! I feel like I'm going to go crazy because of this crap!
Bri·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
well if he doesn't pay for his daughter he can go to jail and have to pay anyway(if its court order), he doesn't want that neither do u and it seems like he's spoiling her and such but he isn't he's doing what has to b done and he really should talk to you about it so you two can plan how money is spent especially if you both don't feel it's being spent right... My husband always gets on my case about this and that needing paid and how we should go about doing it when I could care less or I think we should worry about this first and that later but if you don't talk about it it's just gonna eat away at both of you and it will all get figured out and hope the best for you
Sydney·
Мама дочки (4 года)
It's not court ordered, and I know for a fact it doesn't get used on her. her mother demands it because she needs more for her alcohol budget. I don't ever get anything for myself because I have terrible anxiety attacks when I do. But celebrating my daughter's 4th birthday is suppose to be a happy thing and maternity clothing is a must.
Jenni·
Мама дочки-младенца, беременна (34 нед.)
well tell him you need to send her this amount, if he cant provide for you then move on he sounds like am asshole
Bri·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
maybe he's pays everytime because he doesn't want it to b court ordered cause if it was she might get way more and u guys would see way less of his check. I'm not sure what his reasoning is but he should b able to talk about it with you and your requests for money for her party and clothes isn't extreme, very doable and such. I think you guys should just talk
Sydney·
Мама дочки (4 года)
@theirmommy_2, lately he is one, more then normal.
@bripie8159 his daughters mother threatens it but then she'd have to allow his daughter to spend more time with him and she refuses to do that. it was already discussed with our attorney
Jenni·
Мама дочки-младенца, беременна (34 нед.)
@quin230, i dont get why baby mamas are such assholes like that, like seriously why keep a daughter from their dad
Sydney·
Мама дочки (4 года)
@theirmommy_2, his daughter is only here, alive, because he made it happen. as in, if he wouldn't have made his ex keep her, she'd have gotten an abortion. she had gotten 2 abortions prior to getting pregnant with my fiance, and constantly reminds him that he is the only reason she didn't do it with their daughter. she complains ALL the time about nut being able to go party and everything because SHE has their daughter. He wants custody, but his ex is a manipulative social worker and it won't happen unless she dies or is in a coma.