After writing my last post, I started to think about something and I could really use advice. I…

I wouldn't get too upset. but I do agree he should be a little more responsible when it comes to picking up his clothes and throwing trash away, etc, especially since you're pregnant. I have to do it all myself (picking things up and taking care of a dog) because my hubby is a truck driver and gone alot so I know how difficult it is to have to bend over or squat down to pick something up. maybe try to reason with him and explain to him that it's hard for you to do those things right now

Mine works and I don't, and he helps when he can around the house. Usually I just ask him to vacuum and do floors for me because it's gotten too hard. We kind of look at it as though the house is my job and making the income that supports it is his. It works for us. @ninjamami

@arijane316, I try to explain the best that I can but I just end up crying because I'm in so much pain and exhausted all the time. This pregnancy has completely whooped my ass. I can barely even walk. He just doesn't see why it bothers me, he can sit down and relax with a mess around him. I can't do that!! Like I literally can't, no matter how much pain I'm in I have to get up and clean before I can sit down and he thinks I'm crazy.

I think you two need to do what works for you two. there's wives who feel it's their duty to wait on their man hand and foot if they don't work. but, I also see where you are coming from. you're exhausted. I don't work either, but I'm dead tired all the time. I do as much as I can with cooking, cleaning, and definitely make sure I do everything to make sure he's satisfied in the bedroom, but he does clean a lot more than I do and cooks at least half the time. he knows I feel terrible, but he reassures me that right now my job is raising my son and growing a human. if it's tiny things like picking up a pair of pants, pick your battles. if it bothers you, pick it up. if it's something big like he doesn't take out the trash, explain to him it's hard to do when you're pregnant and it's something he needs to take up for now.

@emily18234, hes always telling me to relax that he'll do it, that I should just rest. And I wait and wait and wait for stuff to get done and it never does then he falls asleep and I'm up all night cleaning it. And the next day it's the same thing and I yell because that's what he told me the night before and before and it never happens and then he gets upset and apologizes and promises to try harder to help and then it happens again 😂😑 I guess I should just be thankful for the things he does do for our family and I really do appreciate it. It's only a couple more weeks, I'll just suck it up and keep the peace.

@ninjamami, I agree. I doubt he's doing it to be inconsiderate. think about how much stuff you forget or overlook because you're pregnant. it takes a toll on everyone. just enjoy this time while you can because a newborn is going to put a whole knew strain on things

I understand. maybe sit with him and relax and let him relax after work for a bit and then have him pick something up. he also doesn't understand the nesting. you feel the house should be spotless and he doesn't understand that. just tell him it should be clean for the new baby

mine works and I don't and he always help with house work he even does the dishes sometimes..... he should help you out a little bit with you being pregnant