🚨🚨 so....today my boyfriends grandma that he live with passed away because of cancer.. and he's so…
🚨🚨 so....today my boyfriends grandma that he live with passed away because of cancer.. and he's so hurt and sad about it ..and now hr has to figure out where hes going to stay because all of his family besides her live in Missouri...but he's in Vegas and im not going back to Vegas until late March I'm in L.A...... and idk what to do to console him.. I feel like a horrible gf..and he hasn't really said much to me at all today..except what is he going to do without her..I just don't know what to do.. I feel like everyone grieves different but if it were me I'd be dying to talk to him...trying not to take it personal...but I'm nervous that his baby mother he been with for like 8 years is out there consoling him when it should be me..I'm sure im probably overreacting and should just give him space.. but its hard I just want to be there for him 😟
Tahtahme·
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When my husbands mother passed of lupus, he didn't really talk about it. He did what he had to do and expressed himself a few tomes, but here we are almost at the 1 yr anniversary and he hasn't cried about it in front of me since the moment he was told, and then only briefly. We have been together for 10yrs...I think men handle things their own way, we shouldn't take it personal.
Kamiya·
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yeah..I understand that..I don't want to force him to talk about the situation but..I don't want him to shut me out like I haven't really heard from him at ALLL ..but maybe its all too soon and he needs his time to his self..I just really want to be there for him so he knows he isn't alone.. @tahtahme
Tahtahme·
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It could be especially hard if he was there to witness the end, or if he feels hopeless about it. Just text or call every 4+ hours so he knows you have him and his well being on your mind! I am sure he will understand that and come to you when he is ready...
Kamiya·
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yeah true..i am honestly not sure if she was at home or not but if so then he was the one to find her...and I know that's devastating.. I lost my mother...so I know its hard but I didn't want to be left alone..I needed to know someone cared..but u right...I'm going to just let him know I'm worried and thinking about him every so often and pray that he needs me soon..@tahtahme,
Tahtahme·
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Yeah we watched his mom go from 100 to 0 so fast it was awful...And I was like you--needing company and someone to cry with. He and his little brother were different....grieving but different. Give it a few days before you really get scared! He may just be deep within himself right now. He has to plan for the cremation/funeral, where he is going to live, and his plans for you as well. its a lot on a mans mind!
Kamiya·
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you're right... thanks! @tahtahme
Niki·
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I'm so sorry for the loss, my brother in law has cancer and took a turn for the worst these past couple of days. I've been trying to figure out how to help my husband thru this difficult time as well. all I can say is just be there for him.