once again my family flip flops on me... now I have no idea if im having a baby shower.... cant they…

once again my family flip flops on me... now I have no idea if im having a baby shower.... cant they understand that are stressing me out one day its a yes then the other day its a no... I keep planning it and planning it but then they shoot it down... all they have to do is pay the park and I do everything else its not that hard...