So i know its always a bad fairy tale story about mother-in-laws. I was curious to know if anyone…
So i know its always a bad fairy tale story about mother-in-laws. I was curious to know if anyone else is having trouble with their mother-in-law?
For my side we have 5 other grand kids, and for my in-laws its their 1st....
I used to have a good connection with her untill i became pregnant.. Now shes very bossy and controlling.
Ive tried to be calm about it because i see it as shes very excited for her first grand baby... But she is throwing a baby shower solely for my fiance. And when i tried to confront her about making this about the baby and not only me or my fiance she got upset saying they do stuff differently and said i was being selfish and ungrateful... But now my fiance finally talked with her, she included my name on the invites but i tried helping her and she told me "i dont like that, thats not ME." I thought it was suppose to be about the baby? ... But now she wants a separate registry for her party only... Its just one thing after another. And my fiance does stick up for me and put his foot down but yet im not sure what to do with my mother-in-law.. She is supportive and buys us alot which im grateful for but she always says everything she buys is what my fiance wants... Im not sure if its cause we arent fully married or what but id sure like some help... Or advice..
nora·
honestly don't take this the wrong way please.. but be happy she WANTS to throw a baby shower. she's probably just really excited and is getting carried away.
GinaG·
Мама двоих (младенец)
sounds like she's overtly excited and may be she knows how dads usually get left out when it comes to the shower and she wants him to feel celebrated as well because lets be real showers become all about what the mom wants and baby. is he an only child ?
Tahtahme·
В ожидании первенца
Seems weird she wouldn't include your name on anything, as her son couldn't have the baby without you...maybe she doesn't think you 2 have a real relationship? Maybe she thinks it won't last long? I am just not sure...
Deanna·
В ожидании первенца
My mother-in-law doesn't even care that me and her son are pregnant with the first grandbaby on their side of the family. My mother could care less as well. This baby will be my mother's 11th grandbaby and she doesn't care about the first 10 nor has she even met 9 of them. This pregnancy everything we've gotten for her is from my aunt and my great aunt. I believe you and your fiance should sit down with his mom and talk it out as adults. The baby shower should be about the baby, you, and your fiance. If she can't accept that then I'd tell her that you guys don't want to attend her baby shower and just do your own. Good luck.
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@ginag918, no hes the youngest. They have two boys.
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@tahtahme, my family was very concerned cause literally nothing had me even on it... And my family had everything with both of us on it...
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@norrrraaaaa, i totally am greatful but i wanted other expecting mothers opinions, cause my family and my friends were very annoyed with her behavior the last couple of family gatherings. My sister kinda got into it with her about her approach and including the both of us. She just seems really rude about it and said they do things differently.. Niether of our families get along well cause they are just so different. I am grateful. I just feel so confused cause she literally doesnt include me in anything. She just had a fight with my fiance about how she doesnt want to include me..
Lissette·
Thats what i don't understand why she wouldn't include you... Everyone usually want a pic with the mom n baby..maybe its true that she wont think you'll last and wants that stuff to keep in her house.
Lissette·
Do u know if shes ever had a baby shower ? That could be it
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@babynessa, ive had that talk with my fiance. Which he then had a talk with her and she included my name on the invite... I guess i just imagined this a bit differently like this would be less drama than what it is.
nora·
@lildarebear, her not wanting to include you in YOUR baby shower is ridiculous. my mother in law when I was pregnant was trying to force me to name my child the name she chose. she went crazy when I told her I wouldn't.
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@forever_hungry, she literally has bought majority of the stuff my fiance wanted on the registery. Jogging stroller and baby back pack and carrier.. And she already has her own nursery fully done.. None of her friends have grand kids only kids of their own. She has a huge group of girl friends im sure helping a baby shower but i dont think hosted one.
Darian·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (24 нед.)
@norrrraaaaa, yea that was mine as well if we had a boy.. Now that its a girl my fiances whole family is going crazy.. This is the first girl in 5 generations.. So everyone is excited... Its just nice that its not just me over thinking i have in-law issues. Surprisingly my girlfriends with kids have great relations on both sides.
Lissette·
Sounds like shes getting ready for her nursery
Kia·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 7 лет), ждёт третьего
Woa I have a crazy MIL too in different ways though. It hasn't gotten better either in the 9 yrs. with this baby I don't even want her around her.