So my SIL said to me there was no point of a baby shower if I already knew and was planning it…

So my SIL said to me there was no point of a baby shower if I already knew and was planning it myself I'm like well no one knows what I want I want it to be my way and well my family is horrible at keeping secrets sooner or later I would find out ontop of that I know I'm getting one just don't know when