I don't sound controlling when I stress over and over to someone, if they're watching my daughter,…

I don't sound controlling when I stress over and over to someone, if they're watching my daughter, to make sure she's in bed by 9:30 do I? I Like for her to have her bath no earlier then 8 and no later then 8:45 (preferably by 8:45), lotion her up, put her jammys on, have her last bottle, then off to bed by 9:30.