just told hubby that one of my fears is him cheating on me bc i don't give him sex or bjs. he told…

I feel the same. that's why I just let me get off because we can't have sex right now.. it is hard he has a high sex drive and I have none.

yea that's the same with me too. I have NO sex drive at all. but when we do make love it feels amazing. but after I start having bad pains and just uncomfortable. so im just scared too do anything that physical. and I don't like giving blow jobs. makes makes me gag lol. @babyanakin

I understand. my husband gets himself off he is getting tired of it. but the only thing he can do right now the thought of sex makes me sick...

I have dreams of him leaving me.. and it hurts but I just have to trust he wont... but I understand it is scared.

I've also had dreams of him leaving me. or me leaving him. it's not fun. cause I wake up pissed lol. I'm sure my hubby gets off too. he just doesn't tell me lol.

I trust him. but when all this is going on no sex or physical attention. I'm sure he probably thinks about other women. and how it would be. it's even harder bc he's out of state for the week. And I also think if eel this way bc he's always mentioning other women and how they dress so nice. I hate when he compares me to other girls. it's not fair. @babyanakin

Same here. No sex drive and my hubby was asking me why I don't like sex anymore. It worries me too.

that's what my husband asked me. I said having 4 kids takes a lot on a women's body. and it really does take awhile for the sex drive to come back. but I always feel bad saying No all the time. @39surp

Hand jobs?

I've given him some of those from time to time. when I offer he says no sits okay. 😕 @her_plus_her_and_me

Me too@momma588 ! @her_plus_her_and_me I offered that and he said no it's not the same.

Gotta be better than nothing @39surp

yea I can tell he is sexually frustrated. @39surp

@her_plus_her_and_me, that's what I said.

@momma588, yes I'm sure they are.

@momma588, I can't do hand jobs or bjs. because of my past .. but before I got preg I had the high sex drive and now he does. and it sucks. but if he truly loves me he won't cheat.

Oh Lord...I understand this topic so well. My husband has an insanely high sex drive - and so did I until I got pregnant. I give him something everyday (usually a BJ because they are his favorite) and I don't mind doing it at all, in fact I like it - but, sex hurts so freaking bad because of the braxton hicks aftermath and the ligament pains that follow. And he's not small, so every time he hits my cervix when he goes deep I want to scream. Sex doesn't happen much these days 😳 Wicked bummer because I love it, and I do get turned on, its just hard to. Also, if he goes one day without getting off, he gets SUPER sexually frustrated - and I feel super guilty and terrible so I always find some way to make up for it. I'd be scared he would go elsewhere if I didn't take care of hin in that regard, despite how much he loves me. Sex and all things sexual are very powerful thinga.

I totally agree. and the fact that I don't feel the urge and need to do anything sexual makes me sad. I guess I should really try harder to fufill his sexual needs. @sarahemccormick