Found out yesterday we are having a baby BOY! 💙 It was such an amazing day until my S/O dropped the…
Found out yesterday we are having a baby BOY! 💙 It was such an amazing day until my S/O dropped the bomb telling me his brother & his girlfriend are now expecting & are due the day before me... I'm feeling unreasonable about being irritated about it, but I have to be honest, I am REALLY annoyed about it. We found out mid-August & they found out a few weeks ago.. For my sons sake I'm worried that he won't get the attention he should from my S/O side of the family because now there are going to be two babies born around the same time. Am I being unreasonable for being agitated?? Of course S/O thinks I am because he's excited that our son & cousin could share a birthday & grow up being the best of friends... which may or may not happen.. I always shared my birthday with two of my cousins and I HATED not having a day of my own, which I'm afraid could happen when my little man gets older... I got NO sleep last night because of this.... :(
Jessica·
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Not to mention in my S/O family, we were going to be the first ones to carry on his last name & I felt that as a huge honor, but now with his brother and girlfriend being due the day before me, they might be the first ones to carry it on.... There are just some things a mother really wishes for her child and my heart is breaking at the thought that that opportunity has now been taken away from him 😔
Emily·
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The odds of them being born on their due dates is very rare. And both are your firsts so you will probably go longer then your due date. Also my sister and cousin were a day apart and they were really close growing up. I think I would try and think of the positives. They could be really good friends!
Emily·
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Also if they some how are born the same day you could try celebrating it separately because you know how much you hated it. If you guys are close you and her could have a lot of fun being pregnant together 😊
Jessica·
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Thank you for your thoughts! I really needed to hear it from someone else's perspective!❤️ Unfortunately we aren't that close, as they've only been together a few months and I haven't had the chance to get to know her... I would love to get to know her more now that we are going through this together, but I really need to get over this before I can do anything. My S/O has always been "second best" to his older brother in everything (he even says so, and it is VERY apparent when you see it in person). His brother is the child who cannot do anything wrong & is praised for everything, but when my S/O does the same thing, it is never good enough, and I'm afraid this might filter into our sons life when him and his cousin are both here.... I don't want my son to have to deal with that
Jessica·
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That's what everyone has been telling me about our due dates, but everyone in his family has delivered naturally on their due dates lol which is totally my luck!! Haha
missing115user·
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honestly I'd feel the same way. My son is 2 months old and my sister is 3 months pregnant and it pisses me off because shes 17 and purposely got pregnant because she wants the attention. she's selfish so shes bringing a baby into the world and I feel like shes trying to steal my sons spot light because hes the first grandchild and great grandchild. its probably ridiculous to be mad but its mostly that shes having a baby for the wrong reasons. And my son was born on his due date so maybe you'll get lucky and have yours on your due date lol
Jessica·
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See and I'm not mad at the fact that she's pregnant, because they both have their heads on straight and it was a huge surprise to both of them, but it's really nice having the grandparents excited for OUR son to arrive & it might sound selfish, but I feel like since I found out she is due before me, they're going to start getting the spotlight on them, and less on our son who everyone has been SO excited about for the last 3 months... I just don't want to lose that excitement now that two of us are pregnant and due a day apart.. Sometimes it's nice to just experiencing and enjoying some things on your own, rather than sharing it with someone else...