Morning girls! Just a question. Have any of you found that your parents are doing more to help you, buying things for you you know you could never afford, and making sure that ...

Emma

Morning girls!
Just a question. Have any of you found that your parents are doing more to help you, buying things for you you know you could never afford, and making sure that you have everything you need, and your OH family just don't seem to be that interested! Don't get me wrong, I'm not spoilt or anything like that, but I work long hours for rubbish money so my parents will always make sure I have what I need, even if it means me CONSTANTLY "borrowing" off them! But the OH family don't seem to be that interested in helping?l, and haven't bothered to ask if we need anything, or even offer anything! I'm just starting to feel like they are just sitting back and letting my parents do it all! It's really starting to stress me out and cause massive arguments between me and the OH!!!

01.11.2015

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@emmy_lou, my OH family are the same by dad has always helped us but my mum is helping a lot more since being pregnant. She's bought me clothes that fit me. A pram. Baby clothes. And much more my OH family haven't done anything. And I don't think they intend to. It's not causing arguments between me and my OH but it would be nice for them to offer even if it's just something small. They were more involved in my last pregnancy. X

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mamabear26

@may23, that's the exact same thing that I've got at the moment! They are all talking about what they want to do for baby when it's born and things like that, but seem to be making no effort in helping me and my OH in buying things! We're are on a low income and they know that, but it seems only my parents want to help xxx

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may23

@emmy_lou, ok I see. My sis had the same issue with her in laws, that's why I assume it was like that. My family almost bought everything for the baby and his parents and sisters nothing but they want to see the baby everyday. She is very upset but cannot tell them not to visit.

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mamabear26

@may23, it's not like they don't like me, I assume they do, they've never been horrible to me, but it just feels like the 2 other grandchildren are here already so mine isn't as important!! Xx

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may23

That's mean ! If they can afford why don't they help?! Every little thing helps for the baby. Parents can be really mean if they don't like the mother of the baby

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jade_17

I wouldn't stress about it though. As my mum says, max will make up his mind about who he wants to spend time with. Even now & he's only 6 weeks old. He will smile at my mum and dad but when my Oh's mum comes over her cries because he's not use to them. Just focus on your new family and make an effort with them if they step up. If they don't then don't worry! :) xx

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mamabear26

@jade_17, that is exactly what I've got at the moment!! It's just making me feel horrible!! Xxx

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jade_17

Exactly the same with me. My parents bought the pram & the cot because we couldn't afford it & my OH bought nothing. Now he's born my mum comes round with an outfit she just "had" to buy whereas my oh parents haven't bought him any gift apart from lecturing me constantly I should stop eating sugar -_- gah! 😑 xx

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mamabear26

I think what annoys me the most is that when my Bro in law was expecting his babies, everyone was so excited and was buying this and that for them and taking them places and offering all the services under the sun, but now it's me and his brother (my OH) that are expecting it's almost like His family aren't bothered, because the other 2 are already here! I'm just feeling so emotional and stressed and lonely and upset my it all, but I know it's not my place to tell them to pay me more attention lol xxx

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winterbaby95

Oh you aren't the only one :) my OH's family haven't even mentioned the baby, I am almost 7 months pregnant. I don't mind them not giving anything...because in their own rights they don't have to.But I would've at least liked them to show something towards me. It's not like they don't like me either. If they aren't bothered then...f them lol! I've always been independent...so I've never expected to be given stuff by my family :) but my mum put some money towards a car seat, offered to buy the moses basket which I gladly accepted. My sister also bought a few clothes :) and I got given stuff by neighbours :) my auntie are making/buying a few knitted things :) But I haven't received loads. :)

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emily.and.phoebe

it was exactly the same with me! the only reason. my bf family didn't help at first was because they didn't agree that we should keep the baby, mainly because at the time we were 17 and we are young. once they eventually came round and realised that things weren't going to change and that I wasnt gonna change my mind about keeping the baby they started to help. I just kept saying to my bf that whether they like it or not I'm not changing my decision. there were arguments between me and my bf as well which stressed me out ALOT and even nearly drove me to break up with him a few times (hormones urghhh). I said that if they didn't help they wouldn't see her and I know that's mean, but if they didnt wanna help to make sure she had everything then why should they.

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