This is the issues. Me and bd broke up he moved out a week later secretly. He took EVERYTHING, even…
This is the issues. Me and bd broke up he moved out a week later secretly. He took EVERYTHING, even things we bought together. Ladies he even took the toys(tmi sorry). He returned everything I ever bought him watch bracelet neckalace clothes and bounced. He changed his number and didn't tell me anything. He KNOWS about baby. Last time I seen him was in early July. This week he showed up to my house 3x 3 different day. He knows its a boy now, and he knows everything. He's excited about baby and NOW "NOW" wants to be around. He told me to give him a list of things I need so he can start buying. I KNOWWWW its his job to help baby. I KNOW. But the pro lem I'm having is he took everything and let me everything I bought him. I have no trust at all and quite honestly I rather work my ass of till my fingers fall of then to ask him. Ughh I've been so depressed yesterday and today I cried when I was alone in my room because it didn't have to come to this. My wall is so high now I trust no one. I don't want his help honestly. Yea we both fucked up(I guess) but he crossed a line that really broke everything. Im not denying him of being in his child life just leave me out of it. So I want to tell him don't worry about buying anything for my house just buy what you will need when you take baby and keep it at your house. Idk what's right anymore. Does anybody understand me?
motherofmichail·
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I understand sweetheart we kinda in the same boat I'm dam near 8 months and still braid hair he tells me oh well let me know when you need something it's like smh I need you to do for your son I can do for me but hey men are crazy and they say we unstable
Rita·
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I hear you. If I was in your situation id ask to keep it separate but for the babies sake try to be civil with one another. My parents were seperated I didn't know my mom for years didn't know I had two other siblings... They make my life hard now too and I'm 19. I know it hurts but try being his friend. And also be honest about your feelings. Because if you don't it'll bottle up and blow
Jackee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
I understand. You shouldn't let him back in so easily, even if you aren't getting back together. He doesn't just get to come and go as he pleases, it doesn't work that way. what about when your son is born? He can't do that. you handle it however you need to, he will just have to deal with that. He already made his choice, right?
Natalie·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 8 лет)
that's how I feel. I mean he moved and didn't say anything till I got home from work. he changed his number and didn't give it to me. NOW you want to be involved. I almost lost baby 3x the hard part past now. my other 2 kids don't even have a mom basically because I'm so consumed in this pregnancy. he can't just walk in and out whenever it's not that easy. @maybaby2016,
Natalie·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 8 лет)
@ritababy123, your right too. I hate that I'm not over this situation after 5mth but its so hard to have to be nice.
Rita·
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@nyti86, I know it is :'(
Jackee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
hope everything works out for you. just try to stay positive, you got this. keep your chin up girl, we are women!
Natalie·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 8 лет)
I just don't know if I'm being harsh lol. @maybaby2016
Jackee·
Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна
did he worry about that when he decided to leave? I'm js. do what you think is right, if you feel you're being harsh then handle it another way. you seem really nice because I would have to be a harsh bitch lol
missing58user·
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I would have him sign something saying he won't take any of it back
Natalie·
Мама двоих (6 лет, 8 лет)
that's exactly the problem I'm wayyyy to nice. and it always bites me in the amaybaby2016 ss@