So finally expressed to him that I feel he needs to be more proactive and we do this as a team…

So finally expressed to him that I feel he needs to be more proactive and we do this as a team coparenting. Of course he turned it into me saying he does nothing for his dtr and how im unappreciative of the things he does do!

Um well he didn't help me with baby shower, didn't buy her stroller or the main things a baby would need what didn't come from shower came from me,he doesn't have to worry about how baby will have insurance because she's on mine thru work, he doesn't have to worry about high child care cost or our child being with strangers because I moved my cousin back out here to take care of her, doesn't have to worry about paying $200+ for formula because I breastfeed, don't have to worry a bout where his kid will live because I have always had my own place.

So is it wrong for me to feel like because all the hard things parents deal with in having a new baby was made easier thru me is it wrong for me to think that I should not have to ask him to bring diapers he should just bring some every few weeks, when I ask him to put a pump on his credit card until I get paid from work he should do it with no hesitation.

There are plenty guys who are forced to fit the bill for their pregnant gf who quit her job or never had a job or place of their own to begin with. He don't know how stressful it is to work in a commission based job where if u don't produce a certain amount you can get fired , go to school, raise a teenager and newborn with a potentially debilitating disease and then have to always be the one to run and get diapers and worry about how I'm gonna buy a Breast pump because mine broke and pay 1800 rent and WAIT to be reimbursed by daddy who comes to visit every other week. Like why don't he get that!!! 😡😡😡😩