Sometimes I feel like i have no say during my pregnancy with my boyfriend... so my family in montana…

Sometimes I feel like i have no say during my pregnancy with my boyfriend... so my family in montana (all my family) cant make it to calems and I's gender reveal party this weekend and right now we are visiting everyone. I kind of feel like I want to tell all my family on my side that we are having a girl, but calem keeps saying no. I want to tell them in person and not over the phone or text:/ all his family lives where we are having the party and its not fair that we get to have a party with them and not my family:/ then with choosing names... i was first set on one name, but now there are a few more that i like and calem just says no. its going to be madilynn rose. I just feel like i have no say.