So now the father of my child has changed his talk from "he's not my kid don't talk to me until we…

I definitely wouldn't hop back in a relationship with him right away. He seems too indecisive. I would tell him that you won't be together until he shows consistency with his state of mind. Just my opinion :)

Be weary and see how he acts in the coming days, weeks & months. I would accept his involvement, but take my time before getting back together. Seems like such a big change in just a matter of days, so you need to see if he will switch again.

Yeah definitely @queendavis, and @varduim long story short we actually weren't in a relationship to begin with...just one of those amazing accidents lol, I don't ever see myself being with him but he lives in Virginia and i just moved back to California and sometimes I feel so guilty for moving so far, I don't want to take his fatherhood from him if he truly is going to step up to the plate. Another thing he's been asking me about is what name I'm gonna put on the bc. I told him I have no idea yet because just a few days ago he was refusing to even speak to me! It's just so difficult trying to figure out what's gonna be best for my son.

Like most days I feel like just blocking him out of my life and moving on because he does nothing but stress me but I think that would be selfish of me. It's so confusing and stressful😭 @queendavis @varduim

I can't even imagine how difficult it must be. Take it 1 day at a time and try to not get stressed. I hope it will work out for you.

I was in the same situation 5yrs ago with my first and ultimately he did what he had already done and flaked out after a small amount of time and sees her a handful of times each year when it makes him look like father of the year to his friends and family...she's four and understands that "daddy doesn't love me he just buys me stuff some times so I'll like him" those are her words....it breaks my heart but I spent the first two years of her life bending over backwards to keep him involved even though he clearly didn't want to be and begged but as it went along I realized I was only hurting her more in the long run with the back and forth...I'm glad I chose to give her my last name on her birth certificate and legally he has no rights bc of some stupid decisions on his part but she knows who loves her and that one day daddy will see the error in his ways and then she can decide if she wants him around but it's not something I was suggest to anyone else bc I would never want to risk some other child's heart the way my daughters has been drug around so carelessly by him bc he didn't know what he wanted and didn't want to grow up....just my experience and sorry it was so long