Went to the store and noticed this guy acting kinda weird, like he was watching me or something. I…
Went to the store and noticed this guy acting kinda weird, like he was watching me or something. I get to my car and am putting my stuff in trying to hurry cause I see him coming out the door (it was dark out) he approaches me and said "I think your very beautiful" and kept on walking... Awe how sweet ;-).. I hurried and called the Fiancé just to rub in his face that it sucks to have to hear I'm beautiful from a complete stranger, because lord only knows he NEVER tells me :'( And I mean NEVER!!! Actually just told him 2 weeks ago that he never tells me and it hurts my feelings, like so what if I'm ugly, you should still tell me you think I'm beautiful, makes me feel good, you kno??
Rachelleduran·
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My fiance never really says it either, a few weeks ago he sent me a message saying how beautiful and gorgeous and how lucky he was. He then got upset because I asked what was wrong with him. I wasn't use to it and I could of sworn he'd done something 😅 oops, sorry dear
Megan·
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@rachelle See I'm the same way!! It's like he use to be sweet, and buy me a rose and lay it on the counter for me to find, and use to tell me how much he loved me and how pretty I was. But I haven't heard it from him in so long :'( I've heard it plenty from people that don't matter to me tho :(
Rachelleduran·
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That's heartbreaking! 💔 But I'm more than sure it's just a phase! We've been engaged a little over a year and at first he was sweet but he became even sweeter with time. He's had talks with me because I wasn't treating him how he wanted so I worked on it and it would make him so happy which made me happy. Maybe you should try to do something for him and if he doesn't notice or tries as well then it's time for another talk
Megan·
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@rachelle I feel like I do everything for him. When I cook, it's for him. When I shop, it's for him. When I plan my day, it's around/for him. I am absolutely the last thing on my list!! My birthday was last week, he took me out to eat a week after my birthday, and I didn't get a card or anything. He'll I had to flip out on him for him to even wish me a happy birthday... I mean come on, how much worse can I allow it to get??
Megan·
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@blessedmom I'm glad you have such a great man. I wish I could find someone like that :( Oh well, I'll get through it :)
Megan·
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@rachelle And my SO and I have been together for 3 years now and on our 2nd child together :( So I'm not so sure about the phase, I think that is just how he is now
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Megan·
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@blessedmom When I try to talk to him about anything it ends up in an argument of how rediculous I'm being toward him. Everything is always my fault because I'm being hateful or something of that nature.. I've tried every approach that I can think of, but somehow it still ends with a huge argument.
Rachelleduran·
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A week after your birthday? 😢 No, no, no don't let it get any worse. He's your significant other, it's his job to make you happy! But he hasn't always been like this right? So it might just be a little rough patch
Megan·
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@rachelle Our first year was our worst year as far as not being faithful, but he was very sweet toward me, the last 2 years have been our worst, just not real sure why. He tells me that he is working to make me happy so he can buy me what i want, i tell him its not about material things to me, but that i want to be happy again, then he tells me im not appreciative. I feel like im trying to explain relationship problems to a 4 year old, seriously.... He takes what i say and turns it into what he thinks he hears then he argues with that!!!! I need to see a therapist cause I swear I feel like I'm going crazy with him :'( But I'm not sure of how much is hormones on top of postpartum still...
Megan·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
@rachelle And thank you for venting with me :) I really appreciate it!! Even though I'm sobbing like a baby's right now....
Rachelleduran·
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I completely understand, if it helps my stepdad and mom went through there ups and down for 7 years. Can you imagine 7 years 3 children later? They've been through it all, financial hardship, unfaithfulness, alcohol abuse, pregnancy hormones, just life. Well, they're still going strong, they're best friends now. It's been 12 years and my mom tells me she's completely satisfied with her life. It's never going to be easy but you just have to see if it's worth the fight. He has to see that you're worth the change. I know it all adds up and you feel unappreciated, but there'll be a day where he'll say "let me help you with that" or "you're beautiful baby" out of nowhere! You'll acuse him of cheating because it's so surreal. But it sometimes it just makes up for all the bad days. My fiance would always put me second, he'd go play with his friends, he wouldn't even invite me to holidays. But just a couple of weeks ago he apologized for what a fool he had been in the past and thanked me for putting up with him. Putting up with him? He's crazy, but he's mine and I wouldn't want it any other way.
Rachelleduran·
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No problem :) I'm always here. But don't cry, it's all going to work out! You'll see!