Question. I am 20 and will be 36 weeks on Thursday. I asked my baby's father to buy a crib bedding…
Question. I am 20 and will be 36 weeks on Thursday. I asked my baby's father to buy a crib bedding set (it would be the first thing that he has gotten in preparation for the baby). He is 18 and keeps saying his dad won't let him buy her things although he has the money to. I told him if he's making the choice to not be there for her the only way you can Be before a baby is born then I'm making the choice that he won't be there after she's born. Hes threatening that he must be allowed in the delivery room and he must be the one to cut the cord. He's now threatening that he will take her away and he will get full custody of her. Is there any way to keep him out of her life. Can I get a restraining order? I do fear that he would just take her even knowing nothing about babies and having nothing to raise a baby with.
Mariela·
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He can't just threaten you. unless he has something on u. ..like ur a drug addict or something.
cassi·
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I never drink,smoke, or do any kind of drug.
cassi·
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@alianagirl,
JazminMarie.💎·
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if you don't want him to be there they won't allow him! if he has nothing on you then there is NO WAY he can take ur daughter!
Mariela·
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plus u don't have to have him there if u don't want. that's up to u. u could easily just say if he wants to be an ass then he'll have to go through the legal system. he'll probably do it... but will cost him money. we just finished a custody battle and it took 2 and half years to settle for joint custody. after paying close to 10k. let him go about it. that's fine. he'll have to pay something.... and it won't be for the baby. it will be for courts and lawyers. so tell him either u play fair or u pay more later. ps u can't completely remove him from the pic if he is the father. even prisoners have the right to see their child. however there's no way the hospital will have someone u don't want there.
missing313user·
That's easy when you go into labor you can simply not tell him. Also you may want to see legal because I think he can request a paternity test. I would not put his name on the BC . But be sure that all this is what you want truly @cassibrewer
Veronica·
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well you don't have to call him when your in delivery and if he finds out you can tell the Dr and nurses you don't want him in there. and he doesn't have to be on the birth certificate. and as long as your stable and have a stable place to live I don't think he'd be able to get full custody he might be able to get partial but it all depends on the judge and stuff.
Breanna ♡·
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If he's not on the birth certificate that can relinquish some of his rights. Save all the proof saying "he can't buy anything" because if he's 18 he can do whatever he wants. & If he does take you to court for custody then show them that and it might help you
Mariela·
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start speaking to a lawyer hun. I pushed my hubby to fight for custody when I saw his ex taking advantage and we got a lot more rights than her at the end of the case. because we proved alot. so don't think just cause ur the momma you'll immediately get everything or win in court. HOWEVER you are just starting and have no "bad" record with ur child... so that's why I say get a lawyer now and tell them what's going on and just start getting prepared. because if his ad is in the picture that means his parents will be fighting against u not ur ex.
cassi·
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His whole family smokes. They are all alcoholics and they gamble at least every weekend. I honestly don't want my daughter around them but I'm fine if the want to come to my house and see her I never said I would try to keep her away from him or his family now he's trying to take her away from me!! I don't want him having custody but I'm fine with visitation.. @princessveronica @mrswill2ndprincess @alianagirl @jayviensmommy15
Mariela·
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just get a lawyer... and play nice from the beginning. .. tell the lawyer what u want...honestly if u can start the process then even better. cause ull be done playing games from the begining. but u need to shop for the right lawyer who truly cares. that in itself is hard.
Mariela·
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and it's worse for him cause hell have to pay child support.
Cassandre·
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girl he's not gonna take her away, no judge in his right mind will give your kid to him especially since he direct want to do anything for the baby. stand your ground about the delivery room because it's your choice who can be there and who can't. don't be fooled either because he'll try to get in good terms with you the closer you get to delivery. no is no and don't let it happen. jerk didn't need his father's permission to impregnate you soooooo.... yes👊👊
Jessica💕·
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my first two children's daddy's threatened me like this they never showed up for court so they don't get to see them and they gotta pay child support.
Jessica💕·
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oh and if you say you don't want him there for delivery or after they won't let him in the room at the hospital
Jessica💕·
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ohhh and if you don't put him on the birth certificate then he can't do nothing until he gets a paternity test and then he can't do nothing if they don't see him fit but to make him pay child support and give him supervised visitation.
Erica·
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@cassibrewer, he can't take her from you unless your unfit....further more I would Abe all correspondence that you have asked for help an been told no. it will help in court... if you don't mind me asking I've been following your story and have you gotten any dna to make sure he's the farther? so that your not stressing over nothing?